Am i good or bad girlfriend...any advice?

i've been dating a wonderful guy for almost a year now and we both love each other. he has a 5yr old from a previous marriage who i totally adore and since he has full custody his son lives with us and i have become the main female role model. i do a lot for both of them taking him school, making dinner, cleaning, playing, sharing financial responsibilities and lots of other things plus i work a very full time job and take online classes. sometimes my boyfriend and i will argrue about the dumbest stuff and he'll say that i nag him. but when he calls me a nag its cause i ask him to help me with something around the house or if we can talk. he dreads it when i ask if we can talk cause if we talk about our relationship it means that there is a problem. i just want to talk about where things are going and work out issues we have from dumb argruments. but he seems to get mad when i want to talk and i feel like i have to find someone else to talk to. does this make me a bad girlfried cause i ask him to talk? or cause i make ask for help around the house? i try my best to make everyone happy but i sometimes wonder if im even doing anything right...Am i good or bad girlfriend...any advice?
You sound like an amazing girlfriend to him, and you are doing everything more than right. Most or a lot of girls wouldn't be doing half the stuff you do. He's just being a bad boyfriend by not communicating with you. He just needs to be more receptive to what you say and your needs. It's not all about him. You need help too. Don't put yourself down for anything. You need to be giving yourself tons of credit.Am i good or bad girlfriend...any advice?
No, i think you are good, he seems to have the problem because he wont talk to you much, the only thing you can really d o is say that you find it important to talk about your relationship and try to make him see that things could begin to go wrong if you don't or just avoid problems
Sorry but it sounds like he want a live in maid, housekeeper, child care plus some to share the expense with.





All I can tell you is that if it were me I would leave but that works for me it might not be what works for you. Only you can know that.





Good Luck
thats great that you have taken responsability in his daughters life, and no your a great girlfriend, he should realize all you do and be happy to talk about your relationship
it depends, do you bug him constantly for hours on end to talk to you or just ask him once?
Sounds like your an angel to me, With some big insecurities that need to be shared. Either with your partner, which would be preferable but he doesn't seem the talkative type. if not look for a friend or even professional help cos the worst thing you can do is bottle it up. It is a big decision to take on someone Else's kids and i admire you, for taking such care of your family


The modern super woman but remember you need to have time for you too, take up a hobby, go out on Girl nights. Don't give up, trying to convey your feelings. A key to a good relationship is communication. Try being positive and giving suggestion. I'm sure you two can work things out
ur exactly normal, wanting to talk or have help around the house.. it's not so abnormal that he doesn't want to talk or calls it ';nagging.';


women are supposed to speak way more words per day than men per day, men are visually stimulated and women are verbally stimulated? ie: they talk with their girlfriends certain things, and they use details that a man wouldn't use to describe something.


the best way to get a man to remember something is to use the least amount of words.. its probably the best way to have you listen to him as well. they'll totally tune out and then they tend to call it ';nagging'; if it's more than their brain can chew at the moment, bc it's just excessive to them.


maybe u need a time and a place to get through to him when you want to talk to him. but if u just want to get your point across at that moment, im sure there's some shortcuts to showing him what you mean.

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