I need relationship advice??? In a BAD way!! ;)?

Ok for starters I am 29 yrs old been in 2 ';serious'; relationships. The first one lasted 6 yrs and he cheated! The second lasted 5 yrs (we were actually married) he passed away last year. (03/2007) My best friend tried to set me up with her husbands best friend about 8 months after my husband died and i was not really about all that. A month later we all went out for New Years and well things happened;) Well I and he were not looking for anything as far as relationships go. We would see each other and have our little flings every once in a while. But never anything more...well over the past month or so it has gotten a little more personal in a sense. He calls every now and then and he actually carries a conversation. (He was never the talkative type) But every time I see him his eyes light up and he smiles from ear to ear. Still insisting that he does not want a relationship with anybody. I see how he reacts whenever we all go out and somebody else tries to hit on me, he wont admit it but he gets jealous, to the point of having to walk away. I just don't know what to think. I also have had some feelings creep up on me that I was not expecting, but I am afraid to tell him because I do not want to scare him away. Should I go ahead and tell him? Or should I just ride the wave and see where it goes? I am also afraid that if I don't speak up I will lose my chance. Somebody advice PLEASE!!!I need relationship advice??? In a BAD way!! ;)?
These feelings are pretty new to both of you. I'd wait it out for awhile to see if he realizes that there's ben a change in thinking for both of you.I need relationship advice??? In a BAD way!! ;)?
It's hard to say what people want. You're probably wondering why he seems so happy to see you if he also does not want a relationship? Maybe ask him for some more history about his past relationships. He might have had a bad experience or he might not be available. If you can, be more direct, maybe ask him why you have received some mixed signals from him, you see that appears happy to see you and you are also happy to see him yet he still says he does not want a relationship. Why?





To me, this all still seems a little soon. If at eight months you did not want a serious relationship, why one month later you do? I don't think there is any quick fix for losing someone. You are going to be unhappy and another relationship could be like putting a band aid over the hurt.





My suggestion is to take things slowly, and maybe he is sensing that you need to take things slowly at this point. Maybe let him know you'll be interested in dating in another 4-6 months and you hope he will be ready by that time also!





Since you experienced a death, I'd definitley suggest seeking some counseling or a group counseling session or at least to join a group of spouses who have lost their spouse. You can work throough your feelings of loss and get suggestions on subsequent relationships.