My boyfriend has a very bad temper, any advice??

For some reason my current boyfriend and my ex-boyfriend both have very bad tempers. They get mad about the dumbest/smallest things! Like if im upset and i tell my boyfriend i dont feel like talking about my problem right now he will freak out and punch something or break something. My ex was the same way, always punching holes in his wall over stupid things.


In my opinion he's too old to act like that(hes 19, and my ex was 20 and acting the same way)


Its strange though- he has an AMAZING personality except for his bad temper is the only flaw. I've mentioned it to him...but he claims he ';cant control it';....my ex said the SAME thing when i was with him.


Anyone ever been through something like this that can give me some advice???My boyfriend has a very bad temper, any advice??
if this has happend with 2 different people than you need to look at yourself, your causing the frustration, if you don't feel like being bothered that day then don't hangout with them, no one wants to be dragged down with someone that has an attitude and then doesn't want to do anything about it.My boyfriend has a very bad temper, any advice??
I just posted a while ago about the same thing only worse my boyfriend was always mad socking walls and we been together for 3years and one day I walked away from him cause I wanted to go home and he came after me pulled me by the hair pushed me against my car and cused me out and we have been together for 3YEARS!!!! get out before it gets worse guys like that never change and I keep asking my self y did I let it get like that and its because I never got out of the relationship you need to find someone who can control there anger and loves you unconditionaly and may be you should look beyond what you usualy look for in a guy and do the oppisite and who know he just might be the one for you best of luck :)
Dump him, date a new guy. Theres lots of cool guys out there.
part of being an adult is controlling your emotions.


we can't all get angry and punch things.


he sounds like he may need anger management classes.


it will benefit him and he will learn how to deal with issues more maturely.
next time he does it smack the living hell out of him and tell him its not his problem and he shouldn't get all stupid over it.





short terms is smack some since into him. IT WORKS trust me, he don't have enouph balls to hit you back for something he started.
slap him across the face n tell him whos boss
I wouldn't deal with that .... AT ALL
You get turned on by the ';bad boys';, it is as much your problem as it is theirs.





Sorry to say, you probably won't change, and therefore, neither will the type of guys you choose.
To each his own......





However, I would never date anyone wtih what I would view as a bad temper.





I am married to a very mild mannered man and he is amazing in every way possible.





Find your prince for every woman is a princess.
Tell him to get some anger management counseling, or you're moving on (and mean it). There is NO reason for you to put up with that nonsense...and how long before one of those punches lands on you?
break up. You need a steady guy
I couldn't be with a guy with a temper like that, it's a bad sign .
00000hh man.... i have gone thru the saaaaame thing!!! so let me tell you... i believe that you should leave... unconsciously i can tell you may know its right... it might hurt... but hey more fishies in the sea =] LIVE YOUR LIFE!!! no guy should have to be aggresive towards any woman (viecersa as well) but if thats how they are now... in the years they might blow so hard they really push the limits and hurt you. take care =]
Take a big steaming fresh brown one on him next time he trys to temper up.
anger management, it worked for my boyfriend
If he won't even try to fix it then tell him you can't deal and leave. He should really go to therapy for this. Anger management ...whatever you want to call it.





Do you really want to spend your life with a grown man who throws tantrums. And what if he hits you rather than the wall?!
Get out as fast as you can. He won't change. If he gets upset over little stuff imagine what he would do over something serious.
u attract the violent type. what attracts you about those guys? Like a previous poster said, its not likely to get better. Changing oneself is an ardous, painstaking process and changing another is simply impossible. Id advise you not to wait until he starts punching on you.
TELL HIM HE HAS A PROBLEM %26amp; THAT U DO NOT LIKE IT AND THAT HE BETTER STOP OR YOUR BREAKING UP GOOD LUCK ^_^
give him a joint of the sticky-icky and he'll chill out, have one for yourself too.
Last year my best friend dated a guy who matched that description perfectly.When we first met he got mad at me for the way I looked at him and blew up and tried to leave.This is the type of guy she always attracts/goes for.Eventually he got so controlling that she couldn't hang out with her friends.When she accidentally hit him and then immediately apologized he became abusive with her from that point on.


Save yourself the misery and please get out of that situation it won't end well.
Get out of the relationship. Obviously your personalities are clashing. He admits he can't control his temper and one day he'll punch you instead of a wall. You are still young and there are plenty of guys out there.





I would suggest he seek anger management and I would sugget you start talking to a therapist. There is a deeper issue inside of you that attracts these violent men.





No matter how amazing he is besides this issue it's not worth risking your safety.
Lose him. I was in the same boat. I am a very happy go lucky person, and I was OVER THE TOP. You will find happiness elsewhere. Belive me. It is very very har especially when you love someone, but you will be a better, happier and even a more beautiful person all the way around!
Tell him to get help or you will leave him.
the problem isn't him...but also you. when he gets angry or enraged, you have to ask yourself this...are you helping him cool off or are you helping him be worst.. a lot of the times you'll have to just bite the dust and just hold him...honestly thats probally all he wants. He feels incompitant because you aren't opening up to him so he shows you his macho-i'm-a-man-hear-me-roar side. This is also why a lot of guys get into fights over girls because a girl usually doesn't side with a guy when hes angry thinking he just needs space...but although that may be the case and if you comfort him he might push you away...just still be there and not make a big deal about it. Sure its gonna put some stress on you because you feel like you didn't do anything wrong and he should have the right to do that but its called compromising...if you dont he will just build it up inside...But i'm sure he compromises when you're mad..do the same for him.
Leave him, it won't get any better
Man, sounds scary. If he gets that upset and does all of that over little things, I would hate to think of what he would do over bigger things. I wouldn't want to be with a guy that has that bad of a temper.
I am going through some anger issues with my boyfriend right now myself, 'tho he is almost 40. It has already turned violent once with me and I am in the process of leaving. Get out now before the anger is turned on you.
having a temper is one thing but punching holes in the wall is not acceptable. Thats borderline psycho and you really should evaluate whether you want to live in fear and if he cant accept that you prefer to keep your problems concealed theres not much of a future left. He's got to change or your outta there
You have to be really careful with this because you don't want it to turn nastier, which could happen.





There has to be some reason for it really. Either something from his past that's eating him up inside or something now that's making him feel angry.





There is something which he is bottling up and comes out in frustration and anger towards you or he makes something big out of something small because of this problem inside.





I think you need to talk to him about it. Sometimes men take a while to get their feelings out. If he says he can't control it , then I would suggest he go and see a therapist because it's not something which will go away. Believe me.





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Break up with him, he could end up hurting you