I need some advice really really bad! Please, for the love of God, help!?

So, my boyfriend hates my dad. That's fine with me since my dad is an asshole. But, my dad doesn't hate my boyfriend. My dad is always asking how my bf feels about him, and it's not like I can just say ';yeah, he hates you';. My dad always invites him to do stuff with my family: go out to dinner, have a bbq at my house, etc. Rob never accepts the invites because he hates my dad, but it hurts me that he can't just suck it up, and put on a happy face, and live with the fact that he is my dad, and he's going to have to deal with him if he's going to marry me. We've been talking about marriage for a long time. Anyway, everytime my dad comes up in conversation, it always ends in him not wanting to say ';I love you';, and me being very angry, and very hurt. He keeps telling me to move out, but I don't make enough to pay for both car insurance, and rent. He tells me, that he'll drive me to college, and work, but I go to work about 30 miles away from home. Impractical much?I need some advice really really bad! Please, for the love of God, help!?
Yep, I side with you on this argument. He needs to suck it up and pretend to like your dad. It's not gonna kill him to do it, and if he doesn't it may very well cause a rift in your relationship that won't be healed. He's not using common sense at all. Does he think if you get married that your father is just gonna go away? I get the feeling your father knows he doesn't like him and that's why he's being so chumly towards him. Good luck dear.I need some advice really really bad! Please, for the love of God, help!?
Your very welcome dear. I dont know why but that was a gut feeling i had after reading your question. Thank you and good luck!!

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if he wont suck it up and put a happy face around ur dad for u then doesnt really love u and i'm sorry to say this but what would happen if u guys got married? would he not go to the weeding cuz ur dad is gonna be there? and ur dad doesnt seem like such a bad guy if he wants ur bf around the family...it seems like ur dad is trying to make ur bf feel like a member of the family and ur bf doesnt want any part in that...thats really rude...no offence but i think u need to put serious thought about this relationship
I am so sorry for you. You only have one dad. Guys will come and go. If your boyfriend cannot respect your dad, eventually he WILL disrespect YOU!! In this case, do not chose your boyfriend over your dad. You need to find out why your boyfriend hates your dad and work on those things, otherwise, don't marry him....you are setting yourself up for a lot of heartache in the future. Good luck. (Happy Thanksgiving)
wow.....i don't get the point....i mean whats the reason why your bf didn't like your dad.....i don't think there's no reason thats why he hates him.. i'm assuming something might happen in the past that makes him hate him?????





anyways you should find away to FIX this problem.....your bf need to understand that no matter what thats your dad and you cant never change that.....good luck
Wait... you say that your dad is an asshole and then give all this nice description of him how he cares about you and your boyfriend. That makes no sense to me!





Just because your boyfriend thinks that your dad is an asshole, it doesn't make your dad an asshole. If I were you, I would date someone who respect your family. Guys come and go, you will have one family for the rest of your life. So choose wisely. Are you sure that you want to spend the rest of your life with a guy who has no respect for others? What are his reasons for hating your dad? He doesn't have to like him but it is very immature to say that he hates him. I am pretty sure that your boyfriend doesn't even know your dad that well. Why is he so prejudice?





And he cannot love or say that he loves you when you talk about your dad? That's just ridiculous!! He is acting immature and childish. So tell him to stop or the things between you are over.
why does your bf hate your dad so much? sounds like your bf is the asshole not your dad! family comes first and if the person your with can accept your family then move on to the next person that will. why would you even care for a guy like that if he talks so bad about your dad. your dad will always be there for you and whos to say your bf will stick around much longer.
hmm this is going to be a problem, your boy friend might turn into a control freak and try to drive a wedge between not only you and your dad but your other family members as well. this is a red flag sweetie. if you love your dad you better think about this on long and hard.