Can i please get your advice on a bad heartbreak?

ive known this guy for 4 yrs who claims to love me yet he hurt me every chance he got. i was pregnant and he called me everyday to tell me to have an abortion and said he wanted no part of the childs life when he was born. i was so stressed and anxious and miscarried. he didnt even bother to call the day it happened.


he was out wining and dining his new girlfriend and making her collages to show he loved her. then when she broke it off with him he called me suicidal and blamed his relationship failing on me even though i wasnt even in touch with him and didnt know he had a GF until he told me.


he now lives NC and i live in boston. he had begged me to come to NC and talk things through so i spent 700 on a ticket i get on the plane at the boston airport and he calls me on my cell phone tells me im a ***** and he wont be at the airport to get me. Turns out he had met yet another girl and she wanted to go on a date that night and i became an inconvenience. i spent the weekend alone in a hotel room with no food since i had to spend all my money on an airport hotel.


as if that wasnt bad enough i found out he was in NYC a week before i had come to NYC which is 3.5 hrs away from me just to have drinks with his buddies but he failed to let me know he was in the area because it was more funny for me to spend the money for a flight to NC.


he knows im sensitive about losing the baby but he has never comforted me since even though he claims to love me. he makes me so upset by always talking about himself and never listening to me or talking to me unless he needs someone to vent to. he keeps his facebook private and all of his online info. after four years of it i finally panicked and started shaking from anxiety and anger and i just wanted to scream and get it all out. i cut my wrist which ive never done before because i felt like i needed to get the pain and hurt out somehow.


he found out and told me he thinks im pathetic and attention hungry and that he doesnt care and that people are just going to look at me with disgust like im crazy. he told me hes never gona be with me after my stunt that i pulled. ive been hurt so bad over the past four years that i finally broke and nothing hurts worse than knowing that he doesnt care that im hurting and thinks im pathetic...


any advice about this situation would be greatly appreciated. thanks so muchCan i please get your advice on a bad heartbreak?
wow. well i'm sorry for the lost of your child, but think about it..was he seriously more important than the life of your child? if he doesn't care about you, your feelings, anything, he's not even worth a second of your life! now i'm not gonna say ';oh just forget about him'; cuz i know that doesn't work, so here are some things i do. hopefully they help you too.


DAY 1: Meltdown Monday


how you feel: heinously heartbroken


how to deal: wallow in your misery for a really, really short time.


-sounds weird but the 1st step to feeling better is to feel as bad as you possibly can. It's crucial to get the icky emotions outta your system, and you can't do that without expressing them.





DAY 2: Truth-Tellin' Tuesday


how you feel: totally confused about what went wrong


how to deal: get real with yourself about the relationship


- was it something you said or did? DON'T blame yourself! stop agonizing over every doubt-filled detail, write down five things YOU didn't like about him. maybe he eye bolled other girls, or something.





DAY 3: Work-It Wednesday


how you feel: like a slug that's been run over by a snowmobile


how to deal: energize with some exercise!


-going through all that turmoil can be big-time exhausting! no wonder your body's so blah. kick that tired feeling to the curb with a refreshing brisk walk around the block. the cool air will do wonders to help you wake up and clear your head.





DAY 4: Spa Therapy Thursday


how you feel: uglier than betty


how to deal:treat yourself to some majior pampering.


-There鈥檚 nothing like a bad bust-up to cause a girl to forget how pretty she is. Reality check: You are completely foxy. To get back in touch with your hotness, tell your BFF to bring her makeup case. Then, spend the afternoon enjoying a full-on makeover. Let your girl spruce up your 鈥檇o, polish your nails, gloss up your lips and totally babe you out.





DAY 5: Forget-it-all Friday


How You Feel: Better but still shaky


How To Deal: Distract yourself with some big-time fun.


-make plans with your crew to do something totally outta-the-box awesome, like glow-in-the-dark bowling or night snowboarding. Whatever it is, it should be colossally fun and should happen far away from your ex鈥檚 hang spots.





DAY 6: Swingin鈥?Single Saturday


How You Feel: Radioactive around guys in general


How To Deal: Dip your toes back into the hottie pool.


-When your BF stopped diggin鈥?your gravy, you were convinced no other guy would ever be into you, right? It鈥檚 normal to feel this way, but stop it! Go to that party tonight, and talk to at least three guys. No rebounding鈥攋ust focus on some nice convo so you鈥檒l see that boys really are still into you. There will be tons of dating fun in your future.





DAY 7: Super-you Sunday


How You Feel: As good as new


How To Deal: Totally dig life!


-You woke up this morning, and it hit you: He really doesn鈥檛 matter so much anymore鈥攜ou matter! It takes some serious gumption to get back out there when a breakup has knocked the wind out of you. Now go on, girl, and live today to the fullest. Groovy guys everywhere will notice!





i hope this helps you. best of luck to you girl :DCan i please get your advice on a bad heartbreak?
He is a hateful, pathetic, stupid, loveless, f*ked up b@5t4rd.


I CANNOT BELIEVE THAT THERE ARE SUCH EVIL PEOPLE IN THE WORLD! He is the best definition of a ***** that I have ever seen in my life!! People like that truly deserve to rot in hell. There is no reason for you to love him anymore, let alone care about him at all. I never though someone would go this far to hurt someone! Cut off all ties with him. Block him from all your internet accounts. Ignore all of his calls, texts, and emails. If he wants to talk again, don't. Just don't. He's already proven that he cannot be trusted! Thank goodness you put this up on Y!A so you can hear from people with a soul! You deserve someone who doesn't do any of the cr@p he did.





Believe me, I've had heartbreaks too. I know how it feels. How agonizing it makes life seem. But remember, there are people out there. People with a heart. Never give up hope. And most of all, drop everything with this guy like a bad habit!





I really wish you the best in life.


Good luck in life, here's a hug to help you feel better!


*hug* ^__^
**** him! dont talk to him, delete his number, you can find someone waaay better. and ive thought about cutting my wrists and im only a teen. but i found its not the answer. take a stress ball. get a canvas and start throwing paint. do something else besides cutting. **** him, let him rot. let him be someother chick's problem. and sorry for your miscarriage. that happened to my cousin. its very hard to go through that. but one day you will find a man worthy enough and will treat you very well. and maybe you will have another baby with a guy who isnt a dickface like the last one. i hope God blesses you.