Want another baby quite bad but some problems..advice please..?

ive already had a boy and a girl..had no problems concieving with them both..now me and my partner want our 3rd..only problem is..





hes perfect doesnt drink..smoke..drugs..etc





i on the other hand..have done drugs..namely..pills and weed..normally go out every month with friends on nights out and get pretty drunk..i smoke sometimes its quite heavy sometimes i can go days without smoking...





after the birth of my eldest i had endometriosis luckily fell pregnant with my youngest as doc said pregnancy would cure it.i also had an abortion june 2006 as it was too close to have another. i have cut down going out..stopped the drugs..although im not addicted to drugs..i have only ever done pills twice once landing me in hospital and weed making me sick..so its a no go from now on.


although i smoke i want to stop depseratly.


my partner isnt keen on the idea of having right this minute untill i sort myself out which i am trying..


any advice would be greatly appreciated!!


thanks :-Want another baby quite bad but some problems..advice please..?
It's hard to manage parenting and health problems at the same time, and endometriosis can cause a lot of pain. But, it's also hard to parent well and deal with drugs or alcohol or other substances. They're hard on your body, to begin with, and when you're using, and drunk or high, it's hard on those around you as well, because you're just not yourself. Your partner sound wise. It seems like it would be a good idea to take time to stop using drugs and alcohol, to build a healthy realtionship with the children you have, and with your partner, and to heal your body, mind, and spirit a bit, before trying for a baby. Starting a pregnancy in your best health gives your baby, who is totally dependent on you while he or she is growing inside, the best possible start in life. There are many sources of support and help while you try and work out what's going on for you.Want another baby quite bad but some problems..advice please..?
OK, you had an abortion less than a year ago and now you want to get pregnant. Something isn't right there. I think you have enough children. Concentrate on being a good mom to them and cleaning up your act. I may get thumbs down for this but you don't need another child. Actually, you don't deserve one. Sorry, that's how I feel.
I would get your life in order before you think about getting pregnant again.