Am i good or bad girlfriend...any advice?

i've been dating a wonderful guy for almost a year now and we both love each other. he has a 5yr old from a previous marriage who i totally adore and since he has full custody his son lives with us and i have become the main female role model. i do a lot for both of them taking him school, making dinner, cleaning, playing, sharing financial responsibilities and lots of other things plus i work a very full time job and take online classes. sometimes my boyfriend and i will argrue about the dumbest stuff and he'll say that i nag him. but when he calls me a nag its cause i ask him to help me with something around the house or if we can talk. he dreads it when i ask if we can talk cause if we talk about our relationship it means that there is a problem. i just want to talk about where things are going and work out issues we have from dumb argruments. but he seems to get mad when i want to talk and i feel like i have to find someone else to talk to. does this make me a bad girlfried cause i ask him to talk? or cause i make ask for help around the house? i try my best to make everyone happy but i sometimes wonder if im even doing anything right...Am i good or bad girlfriend...any advice?
You sound like an amazing girlfriend to him, and you are doing everything more than right. Most or a lot of girls wouldn't be doing half the stuff you do. He's just being a bad boyfriend by not communicating with you. He just needs to be more receptive to what you say and your needs. It's not all about him. You need help too. Don't put yourself down for anything. You need to be giving yourself tons of credit.Am i good or bad girlfriend...any advice?
No, i think you are good, he seems to have the problem because he wont talk to you much, the only thing you can really d o is say that you find it important to talk about your relationship and try to make him see that things could begin to go wrong if you don't or just avoid problems
Sorry but it sounds like he want a live in maid, housekeeper, child care plus some to share the expense with.





All I can tell you is that if it were me I would leave but that works for me it might not be what works for you. Only you can know that.





Good Luck
thats great that you have taken responsability in his daughters life, and no your a great girlfriend, he should realize all you do and be happy to talk about your relationship
it depends, do you bug him constantly for hours on end to talk to you or just ask him once?
Sounds like your an angel to me, With some big insecurities that need to be shared. Either with your partner, which would be preferable but he doesn't seem the talkative type. if not look for a friend or even professional help cos the worst thing you can do is bottle it up. It is a big decision to take on someone Else's kids and i admire you, for taking such care of your family


The modern super woman but remember you need to have time for you too, take up a hobby, go out on Girl nights. Don't give up, trying to convey your feelings. A key to a good relationship is communication. Try being positive and giving suggestion. I'm sure you two can work things out
ur exactly normal, wanting to talk or have help around the house.. it's not so abnormal that he doesn't want to talk or calls it ';nagging.';


women are supposed to speak way more words per day than men per day, men are visually stimulated and women are verbally stimulated? ie: they talk with their girlfriends certain things, and they use details that a man wouldn't use to describe something.


the best way to get a man to remember something is to use the least amount of words.. its probably the best way to have you listen to him as well. they'll totally tune out and then they tend to call it ';nagging'; if it's more than their brain can chew at the moment, bc it's just excessive to them.


maybe u need a time and a place to get through to him when you want to talk to him. but if u just want to get your point across at that moment, im sure there's some shortcuts to showing him what you mean.

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Character Paper GOOD OR BAD? Please read advice please?

What is Character? This is not a question I would ask my self because I thought I had an idea of what character is. But a question for myself is: Do I posses it? So I went on a little journey to find out. I went online to Google and looked it up. That’s when I realized that I didn’t have a clue of what character is. I found out that Character is the account of the qualities or peculiarities of a person or moral or ethical quality and that’s when I figured I possessed it. The definition of Character lead me to my next paragraph and a new question: Do I need character to live a good life?





So, do I need character to lead a good life? I looked this up also. I found that to lead a good life you need good character because in a book called The Time of Our Lives: The Ethics of Common Sense written by Mortimer J. Adler who was an American Aristotelian philosopher and author said “To this, first of all, must be added the observation that even apart from the extremes of good or bad fortune, we need strength of character -- we need fortitude and temperance -- to carry out a plan for our whole life, precisely because that plan requires us always to weigh the interests of the moment against the interests of our life as a whole.”





Thus saying that you need a strong guided character to be able to handle the good and bad parts of life, and with that strong character no matter what happens you would be able to get through all the different moments and at the end of your life you’d be happy in how you lived it to its fullest.





I had another question that I wanted answered so I looked it up too. Is your life bad when you have no character? I found out that if you have no character you life could be a living hell but it could turn out to be different if you try to but that is totally up to the person with bad character.





In conclusion almost everybody posses character, but mostly the people with good character will live a good life and actually feel good about. The people with bad character could live a good life but not feel good about it at the end. So to obtain good moral character I always would do the right thing so in order for you to obtain good moral character you should always do the right thing no matter what.Character Paper GOOD OR BAD? Please read advice please?
You always have character even if you dont realize it

Is it bad that if you gave advice to someone that u knew was right but then it ended up bad?

I need you advice please%26lt;333Is it bad that if you gave advice to someone that u knew was right but then it ended up bad?
No, it's not. Your idea might have been very good, but one thing is how YOU think you would react and a different story is how other people react. You only wanted to help and the fact that your friend took your advice means he also thought it was good, but........ didn't know how the 3rd person would react. Unfortunaltely for the 2 of you he/she had a different reaction from your expectation. Better luck next time!!Is it bad that if you gave advice to someone that u knew was right but then it ended up bad?
No.You did'nt know that would happen did you...
no you were caring giving advise but you can't always predict how things will go.just stay caring and do your best

My dog is very bad... please give advice!?

I have a 4 and a half year old male yorkie/ lhasa apso mix named Kodi. I got him when he was only 5 and a half weeks old, and i love him to death. But, Kodi is not well behaved. He barks at nothing, he usually doesn't let people, including me, pick him up or pet him. He also can only get groomed at one place because he bites everyone else. I can't brush him without him snapping at me. You would swear he was abused before or something. I haven't ever done anything bad to him other that tell him he is a bad dog. He isn't abused or neglected, and he has been like this his whole life. I am wondering if there may be something wrong with him, if something may be bothering him, or if this is just his personality. Please help!My dog is very bad... please give advice!?
No, something is not bothering your dog. While medical problems and pain can certainly cause aggression and the kinds of behaviors you describe here they are only a symptom of a problem if the dog does not normally behave that way. Since your dog has been like this his whole life, it is not caused by pain or a medical condition. There are probably several things ';wrong'; with your dog.


1) You got him when he was less than 6 weeks old, at least 2 1/2 weeks too early for him to have left his mom and littermates. Studies have proven that puppies removed from their mom and littermates before 8 weeks of age grow up to have a lot more behavioral problems than puppies who stay at least 8 weeks. They learn a lot of manners from their mother in those 3 weeks. Every decent breeder knows this and no reputable breeder would ever let a puppy so young go to a new home, even if the mother had died. Which brings us to the next problem.


2) Your dog came from a bad breeder. Bad breeders breed for profit or for looks. They pay no attention to health or temperament. Therefor, puppies from a bad breeder are more likely to have a genetically poor temperament and more likely to have behavioral problems.


3) You failed to train and socialize him well enough. Good dogs aren't born, they're trained. A dog that is not well behaved is not a ';bad'; dog, he is an untrained or poorly trained dog.





If you really want help, you're going to have to hire a trainer. And not someone who works at Petsmart or Petco either, a REAL trainer who has experience dealing with dogs that have the same kinds of problems that yours has.My dog is very bad... please give advice!?
I hate to tell you this but you might be spoiling him. That's usually the result of bad behavior! First off you need to exercise him 45 minutes a day at least! He may have a lot of pent up energy that he needs to get out. When he starts snapping at some one tell him no touch him firmly and quickly (like a poke, not hurting him) and stand your ground. Don't let him win!
It sounds as if Kodi thinks he is the boss. You would be best to take him to obedience classes and learn to change some of the ways you handle him.





You need to let him know that you are the boss, and he has to do what you want and not the other way around.





There are heaps of books out on this subject, and it would pay you to get a couple and start reading up on it.





Also, any professional can help you.





Good luck.
Yes, he is a poorly trained and poorly socialized dog that was taken from it's mother at too young of an age. You got this dog from a BYB, which means poor breeding and genetics. Behavior can be inherited. Poor socialization as a pup sealed it.





TIme to bring in a behaviorist to evaluate the dog. They will be able to tell you more in terms of the dog's behavior and wether or not it can be worked with.
Actually this is a learned behavior he got as he grew up. Are you at all afraid of him?


Do you jump back when he snaps? Have you held him a lot since you got him? If you answered yes to any of these questions then he thinks he is in control and as long as you are doing these ways he will continue to demonstrate the behaviors. There are other things that could of also attributed to this behavior.
hum, You could get him a muzzle! and you can buy a certain collar that with spray a type of liquid ( dont worry its made of natural herbs and extracts) what i do when I would brush my cat is put a towel over his head so he can't bite at you . I recomened a muzzle so he can't bite you or anyone else!
What did the vet say when you took your dog in for a checkup? A change in attitude always requires a visit to the vet.





SARAH, you have NO business giving advice when you don't even know that OREGON is on the WEST coast.
Dogs can get this way when they feel like they are going to get stepped on when you are walking around! its a sign that they just want to have a more protected life and be handled better! so do your best and hope kodi grows out! :) best of my luck!!
trash bag and a river. Need I say more.

Why are people so bad at giving advice? Does anyone else agree?

It seems that 99% of the population are totally lousy at giving advice. I've experienced this in real life and on here too. I'm 19 years old and peoples answer for every problem I have is ';you're young';. That's not only the biggest cop-out I've ever heard, but the least helpful and most belittling thing you can say to a 'young' person having a hard time. Another clich茅 I'm struggling with is ';it'll be okay'; or ';everything will work out';. How do you KNOW that? What if it doesn't?! Things aren't always that easy, but we brush those things under the rug and continue to say endlessly ';it'll be okay';. Why aren't we just honest with the advice we give?Why are people so bad at giving advice? Does anyone else agree?
Often the person seeking advice wants only a sympathetic ear. The person then has a clearer understanding of his own problem, and that was really all he wanted anyways.Why are people so bad at giving advice? Does anyone else agree?
I know how you feel, but I completely understand it. It's hard to actually be helpful.





But it's probably partly your fault as well - you'll argue with all evidence and basically state you know better... Which begs the question of why you're asking advice (I'm guilty of this myself.)





However, they're probably right in saying it will work out. As the problem passes (one way or another they all pass) you'll gain new perspective on it. What's a mountain today may be a mere molehill tomorrow.
If someone asks me my opinion and I know that they can handle the truth, I will be straight forward with them. But most people are afraid to tell it like it is in fear of offending or upsetting someone, so they just give the trivial answers such as ';It will all work out';, etc.





You want my opinion on something.... I will give you how it is! LOL
Just honest?! W.e....
Well, glad u got that off your chest. But here's my two cents worth. Firstly, people judge by what did them or someone they know or heard about, and not on your esoteric needs or circumstance. When people do this it's called egocentricity. Take the eg. of abortion, a big big issue. I certainly wouldn't tell a non family member what they should or shouldn't do even though I have strong feelings on it. Society isn't built around my beliefs. When it's closer to home my personal bias comes in.





The statement your young I don't know what to make of, as I'm certain there are situations where this applies and others where it doesn't. Why do we have age of consent laws for eg.?





So, there you go. The world as Dale sees it..lol. I sincerely hope this gives you a more understanding point of view. Ciao and good luck.
May I ask where you quote anywhere close to the fact of 99%of the population from? Even ';seems'; seems like more where your coming from than a fact. We have colleges devoted to training just such people who feel this calling as their life's work. But you get what you *pay for*. Unless there is a government program to cover the cost.


If you go to regular people your going to get safe answers, they've been or have seen someone get burned.


Even those who's job it is to get paid and help, have lots of insurance to cover their butt from things that go wrong.


You can give someone just the right answer, and they murder you and their own family for it.


If you want proper help, buy your ticket, and take the ride. Otherwise take your chances on the 99% you think you see.

I have a really bad anger problem advice needed please???

right i'm 24 i have a 4 year old daughter who i love more than life it's self but she's a typical 4 year old and has the usual tantrums etc........ but i cannot control my temper when it comes to dealing with this and i've done some despicable things, i've punched her and just today i threw a plastic jug at her. i know i need help and want it too but i'm scared to tell anyone in case the social services get involved and take her away because despite being a really bad mum i do really love her so much, please can anyone suggest anything any advice would be grateful, please don't suggest counting to ten because it doesn't work. this is a very serious question, and yes you may want to leave me nasty comments about being a bad mum etc, and feel free i deserve it but i'm looking for help not criticism.


thank you in advance.I have a really bad anger problem advice needed please???
Go to your doctor!!!


Explain about the temper and explosive outbursts. (I wouldn't mention punching your child, or by law, he/she will have to call social services)


Help yourself!! If not for you...for the sake of your child!


It may be as simple as taking an anti-depressant or it may need to be more involved with counseling...but whatever you and your Dr decide, please follow through!!!!!


Do it today, right now!!! Make the appt or just walk in! Your child depends on you and you have to do whatever it takes to make sure you give her every opportunity that she needs to grow up strong and healthy!


I doubt that you are a bad Mom...just a Mom that needs some help. Depression is a real physical illness and anger often is a symptom.


God's blessings to you!!I have a really bad anger problem advice needed please???
4yrs are annoying





An unusual technique that people i know use is hugging the child, this can be used instead of hitting and stuff, plus, you feel better and this can decrease her tantrums





Another way is to get playmates for her, this can also help you, but i warn you to control your anger





The best approach i take is using a stress ball, whenever you get angry just squeeze the ball, releases ur anger in a healthy way without hurting ur daughter.
I have two teenagers but remember the age of 4 very well. I was more patient with the second one. You must immediately put her in a time out when she has a tantrum. Put her in her room and clearly state that she cannot come out for ';set time'; and walk out. This gives you time to calm down as well. It may take a few times but be firm and eventually she will get that you mean business. When she is allowed out make sure you discuss why she was put in there.
If she has a bad tantrum, pick her up and put her in a room. Lock the door. Let her cry it out. Just leave her and maybe get ear plugs if the screaming is making it worse. Don't hit her or do anything too nasty, this is a good way to tell her your boss and you wont take any nonsense. Hope this helps a little.
hi, if she annoys you and doesnt listen to you, get down to her height level and say ';No!'; with a serious face. Then just walk out of the room. I think walking out will help you to relax and think about things- and also there will be less chance of you hurting her. Hopefully she'll improve, but good luck until then.



If you love her so much go get some help. Ask your G.P about anger management. Instead of picking things that she does to annoy you imagine everything she does is annoying and learn not to re-act to any of them.
You do not deserve a child, give her up for adoption and she will have a much better life without you. And if you are really angry and feel like harming her, jump off a cliff!
Let out your anger , but not on your child on a pillow or go seek help anger management
i would lock you in a room then kick the sh!t out of you. this would make you think about you actions.
i suggest you stop this immediatly, try hitting the wife instead she prob deserves it
you need to find a therapist for yourself right away so they can help you expel your anger in the proper way. find an anger management class and group to talk about the feelings you're going through. there are people out there to help you get through this and if you don't look now someone WILL take her away. they don't take your kids away because you're trying to get help they take them away if you let the problem persist. if you start to feel your anger rising IN ANYWAY leave the room! once you've calmed down then go back out and put her in her room so you can deal with what ever set you off... that'll take care of her punishment and it'll give you time to cool off and clean up whatever mess she made.
She is only 4 you are pathetic to hit your child people like you make me sick you say you love her so why hit her?





Go to your doctor they arent allowed to tell anyone or a therapist you need mental help if you want to hit your kids!!





You say you love her? would it be okay if one day she was annoying you and you were chopping up stuff and you get so annoyed you lash out with the knife? but of course even if you beat her to death its all okay because 'You Love Her'





You should WANT social services to get involved you already admitted that your a bad mother do you really want to put your child at risk? If you love her do the right thing send her to her grandmas or a friend while you work this out dont put her in any more danger.





And PLEASE dont hurt her anymore she is only inocent.





And yea my answer might be a nasty comment but i feel strongly about things like this.





Good Luck.
u know u luv her u do right more than any thing right


so when she starts crying or being fussy


first stop her ask her what happened if she continues crying and u get really mad go outside and take deep breaths cry as much as u want then go inside and splash cold watter on ure face


i had really bad anger problems


but life is to short and id rather enjoy with my loved ones than putting fear into there mind and kids are different sum if there parents get mad at them they will still luv the parents and say sorry


and those who will not talk to there parents and get mad


hav ur 4 year old helpin cooking cleaning she will get emotionally attached to u when she cumes back from scool


ask how her day was and even if u dont get wat shes saying keep saying okay good kindly and always hav maximum time to do everything with her if u havsum frustraton dont take it out on her wen she comes act like nothin has went wrong


be the best mom in the world let her share everytthin with u if shes cryin and u ccant stop her


well if i was a mom i wud start cryin to cuz i would never want my baby to be in pain


whenever shes good thhe whole week take her to get a new toy and if shes bad make her sit in her room on sundays and explain that this week if shes good u will take her her fav place or get a toy


and for 15 minutes let her be in her room alone and if she crys let her


after 15 minutes give her a hug and kiss and say soorry nicely and say if this week most of the time shes good she will get rewarded


dont make me cry please ddont be mean to a little kid


im cryin but reallly hope this helps u


dont make anythin in the world make u think that ur a bad mom


bye


thanx and god bless u
go to the dr's and see them, and see if they can get you onto


counselling, are you, depressed by any chance, if so , then i would ask to see counsellor ,A.S.A.P. otherwise if some one else you, know or your daughter may accidentaly mention what has happened .


to her friends ,





so, if i were you, go and see someone straightaway,about it.


otherwise ,some one at her school, see's the marks /bruises on her





they will end up , doing what you do not want.








it will not come from me, and that is a promise,


i can tell you .








good luck,



you must pay your heart on her,when you are angry ,you must control and think about you love her so much and can not do anything to hurt her! take care!


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You need to realize that your daughters actions are not a reflection of you.


You need to realize a 4 year old is just beginning to learn right from wrong and your behavior and actions are damaging her and will most likely give her emotional issues later in life, not to mention injuries now. Why are you angry? I can guarantee that the reason is not the 4 year old's fault.


Punishing and then hugging and saying I'm sorry undermine discipline, striking your child is completely unnecessary and your struggle for control of the situation, puts her in control.


Step back, quiet your Ego, the voice in your head that is so angry. If counting to 10 doesn't work, then perhaps it needs to be 10000.


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Is harming your daughter worth anything?


Does it solve any issue?


Does it make her quiet?


Does it make either of you happy?


NO NO NO NO.





Stop making excuses for yourself, for the situation, for your actions. Things are what they are, Teach yourself and your daughter some control, go for help and support. Put her in day care and get some therapy and take some parenting classes.


You are in charge of your own madness, Control yourself and your daughter will learn from your example. Her response does not demand the same response from you, you are there to teach and raise her. If you can't do it, let someone else.
My best advice to you is a couple of things:





First of all, please PLEASE see a therapist or psychologist. Discuss your anger and let them help you figure out why you feel so much anger and how you can deal with it. Children are so precious; I was unable to have any although I badly wanted them, and to see someone abuse them just tears my heart in two. But even as important, it hurts YOU too. The damage you do to yourself in abusing your child is horrible, and those two reasons are enough for you to seek help.





They do NOT just take away your children if you seek help. The fact that you are SEEKING help is a good sign and they recognize that fact. Hiding it makes it worse, not better. Don't wait for a school teacher or concerned neighbor to report you to Child Protective Services because your child has bruises or is developing social symptoms of an abused child... trust me, those people know how to recognize those signs.





If for no other reason than this... protect your child! Even from yourself. If you find yourself losing your temper with her, you HAVE to make the effort, hard as it is, to step back, take a deep breath and, yes... count to ten. Sing a song. Do jumping jacks. Anything to give yourself time to cool down. Take a neighbor or friend into your confidence, and if you find your temper out of control, take the child to that person and ask them to watch her for just a bit, so you can calm down.





You're not angry with your child, you're angry about something else. See a therapist/psychologist and let them help you find out what that is, and help you learn how to deal with it in better ways.





I am always available to discuss things with, as just an ordinary everyday person with what I believe to be a good head on my shoulders. Sometimes that's all it takes is someone to talk to. If you would like to e-mail me at bayareared@yahoo.com, I'll be happy to start up a correspondence with you, but I urge you sincerely to see a therapist. If you cannot afford it, talk to someone anonymously at the Child Protective Services and tell them you want help. That's their job, really, is to help you find the resources you need for your children's health and well-being.





My best wishes and heartfelt hope for a long, happy life for you and your child.

I am in very bad need of advice, can anyone please help?

my husband has wanted to kill himself since before we met. After we got together everything changed atleast for a while. I've been his strength. He told me tonight that he hasn't been giving up that he has gave up. I have lost myself completely, in the process of fighting for his life. I no longer have a sense of self. I feel like I am spiraling completely out of control. In the battle I have lost my sense of sanity. I just feel a complete lack of control now. I don't just want to give up on him, but life has been so unlivable for me, so much to the point where I have just wanted to give up as well on my own life. I can't hold him up anymore, it's not that i want to give up, but i just can't do this anymore. Fighting this has literally sucked the life out of me. I feel so helpless. I usually have all the answers for him. I have come to a dead hault in my life. Any advice out there for me?


I feel like I just can't do this anymore.


What if anything can I do. He is on medicine and seeingI am in very bad need of advice, can anyone please help?
You can't be your husband's constant savior. It will devour and eventually consume you. Judging from your post I believe its safe to assume this is already taking place. He made need a medicine adjustment or change. I take he is seeing a psychiatrist but what about psychotherapy? A good clinical psychologist may be able to help him through with some of this turmoil he is experiencing. What you need to remember is that this is your life too. You can't help him but sacrificing your entire life. It sounds like his problems were apparent even before he met you. Has your husband considered an extended impatient hospital visit? That might be what is best for him.I am in very bad need of advice, can anyone please help?
No one and i mean no one should have to worry about someone killing themselves for 7 yrs, that's just way to much stress and hurt to deal with. You need to get him help and NOW especially if now he has said he has totally given up. Even if he is on medication and still having these thoughts it means its not working and he is going to need counseling and maybe even a new medication that will help work. Believe me sweetie you do not want him to actually do it and you think for the rest of your life what could you of done differently. Just get him help now before it is too late. I have had suicides in my family and they never expressed that they wanted to do it so there was no way for me to prevent it. You know that he wants to so you need to get him help and he needs to work through his issues so that he wants to live life to the fullest and this is possible it happens all the time if somebody does something about it. I wish you and him the best.
honestly the only thing that can help him and give himself hope is church. Whether or not he believes. The mere feeling of being in one can give a certain calmness. Also try giving/ getting him some massages.
It sounds like he might need a change to stronger meds and perhaps a different doctor. Perhaps talking to a different one might give a clue to why the meds aren't working and it might indeed require a stay in a local hospital. You shouldn't give up on him if you love him but yet in the long run you must also consider your own health, both physical and mental. It won't do any good for you to spiral down the same path. Aside, from finding a new therapist for him you should consider finding some kind of support group for yourself. You need to be able to find a new center in your life before you can really help him.
I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles. I've been in you husbands shoes in my past life. Unfortunately you are not helping your husband by enabling him. He needs to get serious help, whether it's getting committed or out patient care. If he is truthful to the therapists and Psychiatrists they should know what's best for him for the time being. You need to get to Ala Non. It's a group for the families of people that are addicted to substances, but will really help you see better ways to help you husband by helping yourself first. Good luck to you both.
Sweetie, It seems that both of you need to check yourselves into a Behaviorial Health Center so that they can find a way to help your Husband and teach you some coping skills also.
You need time on your own. This is important for all caregivers, especially for chronic condition like your husband's.





If, in your absence, he killed himself, it is not your fault. By choosing to marry him knowing full well about his condition, you showed him that you care about him.





Sometimes no matter what or how much you do, it may still seem insufficient. You have done what you can. The final decision is still up to him.





Again, you did your best, you gave him love and care. You deserve the very same things yourself.
oh sweetie, don't give up. I know its so increadably hard right now. I promise you it will get better. pack a picnic on a sunny day go out without him and just sit in the sun. get a journal and start writing in it. cry. scream. take a nap. when your done you'll start to feel better. then go to McDonalds and treat yourself to a milkshake and fries. OK now i will explain all the reasons why this will really make you feel better. Sunshine is good for you when your depressed because it helps your body balance itsself, I don't know why but that was the first thing my doc told me to do when I was in your shoes and was getting depressed. Writing in a journal is a outlet for all the things that you want to say but can't outloud for whatever reason, and it will help you understand how you really feel. Crying has been proven to release stress, and like on George of the Jungle a good holler does too. sleep is good for you no matter what ails you. When you eat something that has protien sugur salt and fat, you body releases chemicals that make you feel better. join a support group, wellbutrin is amazing, and take some time to find you, you CAN'T help him if you can't help yourself.


And Sandylynn is right, you need to evaluate you life and realize that if he ain't gettin better by 7 years and your to this point, your not doing anyone any good.
PLEASE, dont give up -- a good friend of my mom's was severely depressed. his depression meds worked but gave him side effects, and when he stopped the meds for a couple of days, he went out of control. he murdered his wife, then committed suicide. the children found both parents dead in the room, and are now in foster care. -- true story 2/2006. dont give up, find a new therapist if that helps, explain how critical this is to the doctors, open up to others especially your family
hey i think its not easy fr u bt u took the way urself ,


u were the one who thought that u can do it and bot u r saying that u r loosing it . let me tell u that u dont loose it till u dont wanna loose it.


come on might i believe u the bravest at heart and u were the one who took the challenge and now u r loosing it no dear u r not its just like its becoming a bit harder for u .


someone said ';life is what u believe it is.....';
Get to the root of th problem.





Why is he depressed?





Get him into hypnotherapy so that they can cure this from the inside out.





Meds take a while to work and to me they made me worst so I stopped taking them. My doctor prescribed them for postpartum depression. I wa depressed and the meds made me suicidal. So I am not sure that meds are the answer.
Listen honey, you've gotta take care of yourself. Get out of that situation as soon as possible. Go stay with a friend or relative and get yourself some help. Anyone who becomes someone else's crutch sooner or later gets all used up trying to keep that person propped up. And it's never enough for the other person. They'll keep taking until you've got nothing left, then make you feel bad for not giving enough. My best friend lost her husband to this very thing, and in a very tragic way. I don't want to get into all the gory details, but it was very hard on her, and after 10 years, she's still not the same (going from one bad relationship to another). She keeps thinking she can fix these fellas, and I think she's trying to make up for her husband's death. It's not your responsibility to prop him up and make him feel like a man. If he's not there yet, there's nothing you can do to get him there. He needs more than you can give him. He needs to face the truth about himself. With you doing everything, why should he try? If he's going to give up, he'll do it with or without you. I've heard of a few guys doing this to their gals, using it to control them and make them feel sorry for them. That's not a man. A man does his best to do right by his family, not sit around and whine about his life. If anyone tells you they want to end their life, get them some professional help. And that ain't you. You need to remove yourself from being his prop. There's a difference between ';being there'; for your man, and being his strength. He needs his own strength, from within. If he doesn't have it, you can't give it to him. It's got to come from within himself. He's got to want to be strong. It sounds like you've already reached the end of your rope. Talk to a professional about your situation and see what he/she suggests you do. I don't think they'll recommend you stay in this situation. It's not healthy for either one of you. You need to get your strength back...emotionally as well as physically. Please, take care. %26lt;*)))%26gt;%26lt;
having sufferd from depression myself i know the effects it can have on the person suffering from it and those around them,





what i would recomend you do is go back to the doctor and explain just how bad this situation is and discuss the possibility of having your husband moved into a place where he can be monitered and kept safe, of course this would be an extremely hard thing for you to do to somebody you love so dearly but it could be the best thing for him, for you and for you relationship.





i think you should also try and speak to someone about how you are coping with what is happening because you shouldnt be trying to handle this all by yourself, like you said it will make you ill aswell and that is the last thing you want for both your sakes.





explain to your doctor the severity of your situation and find yourself some form of counseling to help you deal with what you are going through.





and I wish you both from the bottom of my heart the very best of luck x
i hate to say it but it feels to me that he is holding you back from you being the person you want to be, but do what your heart tells you too.
i am suggesting couples counseling because, while you are trying to ';hold him up'; and do everything for him, and make sure HE is ok, you are neglecting yourself.





you are obviously both adults in this relationship and each of you should bring elements of GROWTH into it, and it should not need to be repaired all of the time...





you might also take a look at co-dependency, hon. it truly sounds like you are involved in a co-dependent relationship. LOTS of websites to be found on the subject if you do a yahoo search....





and i hope things work out.
Try to stay calm hun. Maybe you should get your husband to see a therapist. You can also be there with him and even discuss how you're feeling with the therapist. Ususally people think ';im not gonna go see a shrink'; or ';wat a waste of time';, but I think u guys could really use it before you completely lose yourself. Stay strong. You can get through this. Ur very pretty by the way. :)
Groups such as AA,NA Alnon and so on. These groups are special becuase they network and have so many resources. I recommend you and your husband attend some group meetings and maybe enjoy a coup of coffee are a coke,and just listen. It could be that you are not alone in helping your husband see other alternatives with more positive results.Huggs have great strength.
The best advise I can give you is to remember who you were when you started this fight for the both of you. You are a very strong willed person! you wouldn't have gotten this far if you weren't. Believe in the woman who began the battle. Don't lose sight of the strength YOU have.. with or without your husband. Take Care of yourself.. eat right,try to rest(because I know sleep isn't easy), and Make A Date With Yourself for YOU time. Most Importantly... Believe in what you know in your heart to be true. Good luck and God Bless You.
Seek professional help. Go thru your school, call a suicide hotline, talk to an elder if not your parents, someones parents you feel comfortable talking to, something where more professionals can give you the right advisement.
well just believe in GOD that u will get help and pray tonight to GOD the creator and u will get help . just pray direct to GOD with out any hesitate that u will get the answer . and may GOD answer your prayers . but u didnot said why he want to give up his life he is sick or what ??
I'm not making light of your situation, but is he truly depressed or is this a way for him to seek attention and to control you ? I lived in that situation for 20 years and finally said enough is enough . LIFE IS TO SHORT TO BE MISERABLE. Today I'm happy and free of the head games and control.
Yes it is very hard sometimes to keep trying to pull someone up who is depressed, easier for them to pull you down.





Some sadly like the therapy you gave but do not want the cure.





And sometimes no matter what you say it will never be right. Depression is an illness, and sometimes psychological, that can sometimes be cured by therapy or medication.





Do you have other family members or friends who can come sit with him so you can have a break.





It is not unusual for people who are suffering depression to have no interest in anything other than discuss themselves and state of mind, much philosophizing constantly going over and over the same thing.





Apart from what you have already tried; is that you need support that he is unable to give.





In the area I live they have crises team that help people like your husband to recover or ways to cope with their depression.





I live in Oswestry Shropshire, (England)





You really do need time to yourself, to be with friends other family members and sometimes on your own.





I spend most of my time on my own, though i have all these other things too. Also have a cat called Poe, expect she will want to come in soon.





Hope this is of some help to you!
if the doctor and meds arent helping he may need to be committed to the state hospital for a few weeks. i know it sounds bad but that may be what you both need. that way you can get a break and they can help him
Now you are at a place where you can help yourself. Sometimes we need to get to the end of ourselves to do that. Your husband will need to find help with a doctor because it is bringing the both of you down, and also when someone is picking us up all of the time we won't get up for ourselves.
No doubt you love your husband. your husband giving signal that he will end his life. We call it cry for help, he wants to live but not able to control his idea of ending his life. His gesturing shows that he is shouting / crying to save him, he does not want to leave you. Immediate Hospitalisation is needed in such case if you want to save him. There, Psychiatrist will be able to find out the appropriate medicines as well as he badly needs help of a Clinical Psychologist also for type of psychotherapy he needs. All these help you will only get in a well equiped hospital. Do not spoil your time brave lady as you are trying to save him for last many years.
Your husband didn't take a wife, he took a hostage. And you cannot possibly help him from his problems and you know it. Stop looking at him and ask yourself the hard question ';why was i attracted to someone so self-destructive';. Maybe if you stop focusing on him, you'll resue yourself from your own self-destructive choice.
It is good that he is seeing a doctor but have him see a medical doctor as well to see if there is a physical reason for him feeling this way. It has been found, for example, that too much sugar in a diet can lead to schizophenia. I will give you one site which may help but you can also ask about getting a nurse to visit now and then to give you some time off and that may help you by having someone else there to help. Go to social services and see what they may have to offer or see if you can find a site for visiting nurses in your area. If he is seeing a psychologist, talk to him yourself and explain how you are feeling and perhaps you might be better off for at least a while if he can be committed to a facility which may help him, and you as well. I hope this site helps you but you may get more help from social services or a visiting nurse association. Good Luck to you!!

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GUYS! I feel REALLY BAD and NEED ADVICE?! GIRLS HELP TOO?!?

There's this guy josh I've liked for almost 2 years. I used to think he liked me too, but I got majorly mixed signals. Sometimes he was so good to me, and other times (like when he tried to get me lost in a neighborhood at nite)...arghhhh. The final straw came Friday when invited him to this ball I had to go to (just to hang with me so I didn't have to dance), and he flat out said no. I figured if he liked me at all,he woulda gone. Instead I spent the evening with guys who give me the creeps, holding their hands and touching my back and thinking of how the only hands I wanted touch me were josh's.


I've had to see josh all this week at church activity were helping at. I've ignored him if he tries to talk to me. He has told my 15 year old brother, who he's friends with, every nite just how I hate him. Last nite my bro told me to tell him sorry, and I said,';I have nothing to be sorry for'; and josh said,';are u mad at me?'; he asked twice. I wouldn't answer I just turned away. ';I'm not going anywhere. When ur ready to talk you know where I'll be.'; I said wouldn't talk. And then as the nite progressed I just got meaner and meaner towards him.


Now... I feel like crap. I feel like I took the only guy I ever cared bout and shoved him away. WHY? Because I conned myself into believing he liked me. I will see him tonight. What should I do??We're 18. Also...why would he care if I was mad at him or not? We know each other well, but we don't really hang out.GUYS! I feel REALLY BAD and NEED ADVICE?! GIRLS HELP TOO?!?
this guy might be a nutcase. or he just wants to be in a position where he can get sex without having to do anything. but if you can get him alone at least try and talk to him in an adult manner and tell him upfront that you have actual feelings for him. his response will say the rest.GUYS! I feel REALLY BAD and NEED ADVICE?! GIRLS HELP TOO?!?
seems like your overreacted when he said no for the ball


but then you could say that he has been being mean so thats why you got mad


just say sorry if you value the friendship
you need to call him NOW


on the phone


and talk things out
hun... he cares because he luvs u, if he asks y u were mad at him just flat out tell him '; I asked u to the ball and u flat out said no, and that really hurt me'; give him a chance to explain, and if he don't want 2 or gives you some kind of bullshit answer... then u were probably 2 good 4 him anyways... but if he does, forgive him and tell him how u really feel... and start to hang out with him more.

What is the worst advice that you have ever received?

What were the circumstances, who gave it to you, and what happened?What is the worst advice that you have ever received?
My neighbor said her pit bull was a big sissy and I should just walk up and pat him on the head, and say ';good puppy ';.


Do you know how silly a guy looks running down the street with an angry dog hanging to the seat of what's left of his pants--and see him in terror of what the dog might find down there to chew on, after it eats the pants?What is the worst advice that you have ever received?
My brother told me I shouldn't buy this house in the city. He said it was a bad neighborhood. He hates the city.





Anyway, I bought the house anyway and now it's worth 4 times what I originally paid for it. He had me a little worried about putting too much money into it too. Even though I spent money fixing it up, I still only owe half as much as it is worth.
Usually the worst advice that I have ever been given is that from people with no experience on the subject or that they can remain objective.





Other than that, the worst advice I had ever been given was to give away a puppy I found one day. I had the worst feeling about giving her away. The next day I found out that the person I had given it to aloud it outside without supervision and it got hit by a car! I was so upset!
';You can do better.';





I can't. I miss him.
my bf is not talking to me since last week saturday and i felt so hurt even though i was wrong every1 says to make him steam off 4 a couple of days and i did but he hasn't call since...the advice that i got from this website was break up with him r give him sum space for a while so i did...i cant break up with him bc i deeply in love with him so i think i'll wait until a certain extent
well.. the worst i'd ever recieve has got to be.. to tell my sister that my mother and grandmother diidn't like her husband.. gots to be the worst.. lol.. and uhm.. my bf [bestfriend] gave it to me, and then it started a whole damn family feud.. too much to go into the details.. but i wish i'd never done it.
I would have to say that the worse advice ever was when I wanted to leave my boyfriend of 4 years, that I didn't love anymore. I was 24 and my mom adviced me to stick with that man. She said I am going through a 'phase' in the relationship and that he is a good guy, and an egineer from a good family and it is hard to find someone else who will be so good to me.


I ended up leaving him a few years later anyway, after years of bordem and agony, only because I didn't want to disappoint my mom.


I ended up meeting another man who is so much better for me. But I sometimes feel my 20's were a waiste when I could have had fun with someone I really loved.
Somebody told me once if i had sex in the standing position there was no chance to have a baby because the sperm wont go up the fallopian tube. Nine month later i found out it was a bad advice.

My skin itches really bad and its really dry any advice?

sounds like a mild case of eczema or dermatitis....try cortizone and STOP itching it. Cortizone should take the itching away, but you must keep your hands and fingers off of it before it gets severly swollen.My skin itches really bad and its really dry any advice?
Dry skin types have to be extremely careful to protect their skin.Yogurt-honey combination helps dry skin. Make an egg pack with a yolk, a teaspoon of honey, a tablespoon of milk powder. This is beneficial to dry skin types. There are many helpful tips to cure dry skin at http://useinfo-dryskin.blogspot.com/My skin itches really bad and its really dry any advice?
Try putting some soft Lotion on it and try not to scratch it
do u have atopic dermatitis? well if u do then use the ointment ur dermatologist prescribed u and it should go away. if it just itches put some eucerin cream on





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try having a good diet and take vitamins

Any advice..for this bad life?

I don't know why I'm not happy in this life,almost everything is good but I don't feel good I feel that I don't have anything because I don't see my friends and my life without any love is very empty..please any advice.I want to be happy,but I can't... Sometimes I feel that I have to change everything in my life,to be other human.I feel very bad help...Any advice..for this bad life?
from experience id say u need to wee ur gp, u could easily have mild depression and its dead common, the not feeling part of something and feeling almost home sick wen ur home its hard to explain, but it sounds extreme but anti depressants will make u much happier, i was on them for 6 months and im better than i ever have been!! lifes too short to be down go get it sortedAny advice..for this bad life?
itz ok i hav felt that way many a times b4.....and it hurts. try getting involved with your community, like picking up trash at a local park, making a meal for a home-bound neighbor, or walking dogs at the animal shelter. it really makes you feel good when you make others feel good ;)





also, turn to the Biblke for help. God has a lot of encouraging words in there, including stories. dont smoke weed. itz wrong. jest dont!
Don't Worry...Be Happy!
Zoloft?
Depression can make you feel all these things and worse. Please, do not wait, see your doctor today. There are chemical imbalances in the brain that can cause these horrible feelings, getting them regulated is a large step in the right direction. It will help and you are not alone.





Call your doctor... now!
i feel the same way to someday but i know this will sound wrong to some people but i smoke weed and turn to music and i have to say it works hope this helps you out and try the bible there mint be something in there that may help you out and for some people out there that's reads this i do not use the bible papers for rolling papers i use a bong
Maybe if you be nice and think positive thoughts than you will get more chances to do things in life or if this is all about fiends you should see them more and not bag on yourself as much. Hope this helped!!!!














Gina
u know... the problem lies in the term ';love';. its the most grossly misunderstood n misinterpreted word.


v think love is only between a girl n boy.





its not that, feel love for ur fnds,for a pet, for a stray animal,for ur neighbour,for nature,for God...





if u really feel helpless, help others.





find an NGO nearby, spend time with children there.


They need more love than you.give them that.


find ur smile in ders, find ur smile in ur good health,


find ur smile in God, find ur smile in rains, find ur smile in a stranger..... :)

I hurt my knee real bad and just wanted some advice?

the doc said i tore my mcl pcl and had a grade 2 tear of the acl and thinks the meniscus is damaged. i'm not a big doc fan. they just want money. i was wondering if anyone had the same injury and did not have surgery its a lot of money.I hurt my knee real bad and just wanted some advice?
seriously consider surgery. i have had knee surgery on both legs and havent had trouble since. my injuries were complete acl tears and meniscus tears and after surgery i have been fine. it is a hard process but it pays off because after you originally tear something in your knee you will keep hurting over and over again until you fix it.





my first acl i was told over the phoneI hurt my knee real bad and just wanted some advice?
you can believe if you choose that they just want money.


However I have been in medicine for 25 yrs and never seen surgery done when it wasnt needed.





I am guessing they got this diagnosis from doing testing such as an MRI. did they show you the MRI ?





before any surgery, it is always a good idea to have a second opinion by another dr. why not call another orthopedic ?

Bad sunburn....ouch!!!(need advice plz)????

i went to the beach today with some friends for almost the whole day. i went into the water first for a while then i sunbathed for hours. believe it or not, i forgot to put on my sunscreen. i was enjoying my time. until i came home, i while i was taking my shower, i felt the burn! then i realized i was red. my face is even red right now. im in bad pain. i put on some aloe vara gel and it hasnt eased my pain. does anybody have any tips for how to ease sunburn pain???? the only good thing im going to get out of this is a tan...and im not even sure if it was worth it .





advice anybody? Thanks.Bad sunburn....ouch!!!(need advice plz)????
The gel from an Aloe Vera plant will ease the soreness somewhat plus leave you will a cool sensation on the burned area.





The plant has about 15 to 20 succulent leaves growing in an upright dense rosette. The lanceolate-shaped, gray-greenish leaves contain irregular white marks. The leaves are thick and fleshy and measure about 15 to 20 inches in length. The leaf margins contain a row of pale teeth that are about one tenth of an inch long.





Aloe gel is a mucilaginous gel obtained from splitting open the center of the succulent leathery leaves of the aloe vera plant. The gel from the inner core of the leaf is rich in glucomannans and other polysaccharides.





Recent studies have shown that aloe vera gel facilitates the healing of wounds and damaged skin tissue. It can decrease the redness and swelling associated with a burn. The gel also prevents skin damage resulting from exposure to ultraviolet radiation associated with direct sunlight. Applying aloe gel several times a day causes the redness of sunburn to disappear within a day or two without the skin peeling off. In addition, a cream containing aloe gel has been found to be effective in treating frostbite injury.Bad sunburn....ouch!!!(need advice plz)????
Try to use after sunburn gel available in markets or u can also use a lotion ';caladryl'; , its a medicated lotion,it comes in a bottle of 50ml. It is also suitable for prickly heat,insect bite and other minor skin irritations........
If you have burnt then you wont even get a tan because it will peel off.


All you can do is keep putting on the gel you are using, wear light clothes and what ever you do STAY OUT Of IT For a least a week.


That means this weekend with the beautiful weather.
Hi, i live in Spain and the best thing to use is either Aloe Vera plant or cold natural yogurt from the supermakrets it may seem nasty but i get burnt all the time and they always soothed mine! Good Luck!
If it is really painful and making you feel ill, then go to your nearest hospital A %26amp; E department they will spray you with a moisturising spray that will cool your body.





If you r chemist is open ask the pharmacist and he will probly reccomend calomein lotion or cool tan both of which will reduce the burning
that happened to my dad he did this


your are on the right track keep applying the aloe vara thoroughly it is the best thing for a sun burn to ease the pain turn on the air conditioner full blast put on a very big t-shirt and relax


i hope you feel better
There was a cream called Solacaine which may still be available. It is really a local anasthetic for sunburn and it is very effective. You may have to ask a pharmacist for it. If it's not available ask your pharmacist what to use anyway - they do know their stuff.
vinegar will take the burn out straight away..it really does work and then a cool shower and aloe vera gel. it doesn't sting but it does pong a bit...
It is very easy for sunburn to become second degree burns. This can be quite serious. I would advise that you get to see a Doctor. If you can't get a Doctors appointment then ask if you can see the Practice Nurse.





If you are as burnt as you seem to say you are then it is highly unlikely that you'll come out of it with anything other than peeling dead skin within a couple of days. Forget the tan!





The other thing to consider is that by doing this to yourself you have probably increased your chances of skin cancer.





If you do wish to get a natural sun tan the best way to do it is sit out in the sun for no longer than 20 minutes at a time with a good level of sun protection factor cream on. Go into the shade or indoors for 30 mins between exposures. Drink plenty of water and re-apply SPF regularly. Never go out exposed in the sun between 11am and 2pm.





Even in the shade you can be caught by the sun as UV rays reflect off things and you can catch them when you don't actually see them!





As a young girl growing up in Australia I saw first hand the damage the sun can do to a person. I am scarred by the sun and that was just from playing out in it - I never sunbathed! I have a condition called hyperpigmentation and it has caused large areas of melanin build up on my face and chest. I have to use a thick coverage foundation all the time to disguise it - it doesn't cover it completely. I saw the awful scarring left on my friends back and upper chest from second degree suntan burns. She has had to undergo cosmetic surgery to correct damage to her nose. That was at the age of 14! She is now 40 and still can't wear any revealing clothes.





It's a myth when people tell you the British sun won't harm you like the Australian sun! After all - it's the same sun!





A lot of the pain you are feeling is due to the skin overdrying, dying and pulling tight. Keep drinking lots of water to rehydrate yourself. The dead, burnt outer skin will not be trapping water as it should and it too will be causing water loss from the skin. Keep yourself moisturised. A body moisturiser for sensitive skin or some baby oil should help to maintain the elasticity of the skin and ease the pain. Keep re-applying and sit on a soft towel to avoid getting oil/cream on all your furniture. Aloe vera products are quite good!





Stay in doors and keep cool. Relax and get a friend or family member to check your back regularly. If they notice watery blisters don't pop them but do get to a doctor. They are not a good sign.





Forget the tan - concentrate on getting your healthy skin back!





I hope you are ok and I'm sorry if I have frightened you.
I think their is a cooling cream you can buy from boots the chemist but it's about 拢7 for a small tube.
cold shower might help temporarily
Cool bath with ice in it if you can stand it, will bring body temp down, plus plenty of aftersun. The one thing you may get is peeling as to get a nice tan you need to sunbathe gradually.
You probably wont keep the tan for long as usually the skin peels when burnt. You must re hydrate your skin as the sun has dried and burnt it. A good quality after sun or heavy moisturiser will help and I know it will hurt a bath. Gradually lower yourself in and soak in the water after a couple of minutes the pain will ease.......Your skin will be hot so don't use an oil but keep cooling with a moisturiser. This was a silly thing to do you could have caused some serious damage to your skin just be careful if you feel unwell as sometimes you can get heat stroke.....pounding headache etc...Drink plenty of fluids..............
yoghurt, it really works. splash it where you feel pain (sorry for spelling mistakes)
Try smearing yourself with natural yoghurt it will take all the burning away, its a bit messy but will work. I was told this by a greek local good luck
Mom always soaked us down in Pet brand condensed milk. I have no idea what possessed her to do that but it seemed to help. I do recall from a history class that early an renaissance writer noted that milk maids had skin that was markedly clearer and healthier than that of other women of the same age. But, then, Mom isn't old enough to have known him.





Anyway, send us a link to a picture! I can't wait to see a bright red girl named ';I Love Green';!!!!








Still waiting on that pic.
Hello,





(ANS) I am fair skinned and so can get sun burn very easily, I've had sun burn on a number of occasions in the past. My advise with regards to dealing with the actual results of the sun burn, is to leave the skin open the fresh air as much as possible but avoid further sun exposure obviously.





**If your burnt sadly your unlikely to get a tan and more likely that the burnt skin will just peel away in a few days time.





**Sun burn is actually the result of damage to the dermis or layers that make up the skin. In fact a tan itself also is damage to the dermis.





**I highly recommend a gentle skin cream like ';Niva'; on the burnt areas as this will help with the healing and peeling process.





**As for the pain its difficult to know what to recommend really, the pain of the burn should gradually ease down after 24/48hrs. You could try bathing the painful skin in very louk warm water and nothing else.





**TIP!! DON'T ever mix different skin creams like Niva with something else when treating sun burn as your likely to make matters worse. This is what happened to me %26amp; I don't recommend it as it can add to the misery.





Ivan
Hey j , owch you're burn sounds quite bad , i have very fair skin so i burn very easily - what works with me is a mixture of aftersun cream and camomile lotion , its gr8 , it really sooths and helps to heal and hydrate you're skin ~ give it a go you wont regret it xxxxxx
Plain yogurt works wonders to remove the sting of a sunburn. Slather it on and let it dry, then rinse it off. It's very good for your skin too, as it nourishes and moisturizes it.
ooh yeah i feel for you. i've been there before... ouch! i'm afraid all you can do is take cool showers, keep applying the aloe vera and maybe take a pain killer. the burn will go in about a 5-7 days but i know the feeling!
natural yogurt works .
my first question would be where are u to have got sunburn we are in brighton and nothing but cloud for days, u lucky thing, however sunburn is not nice. only thing u can do is keep cool with cool showers try not to rub with towel too much as will make it hurt more, if really painful take paracetamol, u could try an aftersun that is moisturising or a spray called solarcaine available from pharmacy around 拢5. u need to keep that skin moisturised otherwise ur going to peel badly.

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Cheney just announce that Bush quit taking his advice in the 2nd term,was that a good thing or a bad thing?lol?

Cheney just 'announce'...and youre making fun of the Right?Cheney just announce that Bush quit taking his advice in the 2nd term,was that a good thing or a bad thing?lol?
I always thought it passing strange how Cheney appointed himself to Bush's vice presidency from the first term.





Guess Bush finally caught on to what Cheney was up to.


Always believed Cheney threw his boy under the buss.


So its very amusing to imagine Cheney's frustration that Bush would get uppity and stop listening.





One of the few things I applaud him for is NOT pardoning Scooter.


Cheney will never forgive him for that.Cheney just announce that Bush quit taking his advice in the 2nd term,was that a good thing or a bad thing?lol?
It's High Noon at the GOP corral. Do you know whether I can tickets from Fandango or Ticketmaster, or is this event going to be carried on live television or possibly pay-for-view?





Enquiring minds want to know.





Please enjoy a glorious Rush-free Thursday my friend!
Another one like ';the Fly';!!! Get over it with your azz self!!! They are out, gone, kaput, adios, swadee, se la vi!!! Who gives a Big Shyt? You seem to care more about Cheney than you do about the ';doing the same thing'; 0bama is doing!! This time, it's worse!!!
Marginally better. He fired Rumsfeld in the 2nd term. BUt that whole administration were horrible.
Looks like nazi Cheney is seriously scared of a prospect of ending up in jail....
That's a yahoo news headline not an announcment.
It was much to late for Bush the damage had already been done to this country .
I don't know, maybe two wrongs do make a right.
good thang
there 5 questions asking the same thing i guess you are a good sheep
that was a very good thing for the country. it was too late however.

8 to 9 months and realy,realy bad hemorrhoids and nothing helps an any advice might help.?

two things you can try 1 is a sitz bath which is water as warm as you can stand it mixed with epsom salt. at a pharmacy you can buy a special thing to use for the sitz bath. also hemorrhoid ointment does not help in relieving the discomfort of hemorrhoids , what does work is hydrocortisone ointment and vitamin A and D ointment make sure it is ointment not cream8 to 9 months and realy,realy bad hemorrhoids and nothing helps an any advice might help.?
You might consider a prenatal support garment to wear under your clothes if you are having a lot of swelling, pain and pressure. Fembrace and Prenatal Cradle make great stuff.





Try taking Vitamin E capsules (orally) each day to improve vein strength.





Soaking in a warm Epsom salts bath is also soothing.





And putting cold witch hazel pads against the swelling works wonders!8 to 9 months and realy,realy bad hemorrhoids and nothing helps an any advice might help.?
Did you tell the Dr? There are plenty of over the counter solutions, but you may need to get a stool softener to not aggravate. It's worth talking about. They've heard it before so don't be embarrassed.
I had terrible hemorrhoids during pregnancy and after. I gave birth two weeks ago and warm baths and showers help alot. Before the warm bath I would wipe with the Tucks pads. Here's a little too much information, but if you do not have a detachable shower head, get one. Trust me it works.
I used tucks as well after the birth. Be sure to talk to your doctor or nurse about your problem.
I used the Tucks Medicated pads... They helped alot!!! And eat alot of fiber and exercise even if it is just walking.
I sat my butt in hot water. Just butt level and as hot as I could stand it. It reduced the swelling. I also slept with a pillow between my knees. It helped (not to be gross) to separate my bum cheeks so they weren't pressing on each other.

I went golfing yesterday and did REALLY bad. Can someone give me basic golf advice?

It took my boyfrined and I two hours to play six holes. Hahaha!


Well that is..when we weren't making donuts in the sand with the cartsI went golfing yesterday and did REALLY bad. Can someone give me basic golf advice?
Whoa...Donuts in the bunkers with the Carts!!! Ha-Ha I bet the Grounds Crew loved you guys... Anyway I find that when women are playing with men, The worst thing they can do is try to kill the ball. Skip that and just try and get the ball into play. Don't feel you have to use a driver off the tee just because he does.. use the club you control best. Maybe your 7 iron. Next get your self to the Ben Sutton golf school in Tampa Fla.,,Good Luck,See you on the Links.I went golfing yesterday and did REALLY bad. Can someone give me basic golf advice?
My advice...don't play golf anymore, or go to the pro shop and get a few lessons...
The simplest thing to learn when starting out is to keep your eye on the ball and don't swing too hard with the club. Do not lift your head until you have swung the club clean through the target. Also try to keep your feet and legs very still whilst swinging the club.
Maybe you should keep your eyes on YOUR balls, not his!
practice, practice, practice. in no time you will be playing like a pro.
First of all you shouldn't be on the course with that attitude. Golf is a game for gentle men and women. I can tell you that if you do not want to act civilly you will not score well. Seriously it is a fun game but you need full concentration to play well. You simply must get lessons to play well if you are just beginning. Many people cannot grow up enough to play golf well. It sounds condescending I know, but it is true. There must be a smidgen of seriousness in your attitude.
The most important thing is to make sure you have a good set up. You can find a great program in your area by using www.playgolfamerica.com you may find some free classes. Look for Link UP to Golf, You get lesson and to go out on the course. You can also go to www.pga.com improve your game section. They have everything diveded up good. They also have clips and pictures to help
Try not playing golf for a few weeks...then give it up altogether!
head down left arm straight
ya i know to play golf and u can have tips from me as i am a national champion ok first advice is that that golf is played with a free and relaxed mind second advice is hold ur golf stick close to ur body and bend it at urside at 20 degree for less distance shot and sorry that it i cannot give u full tips bye sweety


i am in a search of a girlfriend please help can u be my gf
Duuuuuh, are you my sister. Duuuuuh, Joe Dirt is my name are you my sister. Duuuuh, where's my dinner woman....!
Practice on the range.





Even if you played badly, you were still outside playing golf. It's a great game and with some practice I'm sure you can get the hang of it.
No! Don't quit! In my opinion, you should go to the driving range and practice the basic clubs, such as driver, 3 wood, 7 iron, and 9 iron. Practice makes perfect!
Please stay off the golf course and do something productive with your time that does not abuse others. Quit golf Please.

Advice for a bad burn.....?

My boyfriend was putting up his motorcycle and got a pretty big burn on his leg. It was ok for a few days... but over the past couple days it started bubbling up like a big blister. The blister is huge and looks like it can pop at any minute.





When this thing pops... should he go to the doctor to get some kind of medicine to put on it so it doesn't get infected? Or is there something from the drugstore he could put on it?





I've heard that you're supposed to keep it moist and covered as it heals so that it doesn't get infected. Is that true?





I'm so worried about him and he's in pain... but he's doing the man thing and refusing to go to the doctor *rolls eyes*





Any advice at all is appreciated. Thanks!Advice for a bad burn.....?
cold water is the best/only first aid when you burn yourself - 20 minutes under the tap and no less. NEVER ice OR vinegar OR milk OR butter OR green tea OR mustard OR toothpaste OR sunscreen OR semen OR vaseline OR tomatoes OR vanilla extract OR yogurt OR sour cream OR egg white OR egg yellow OR lavender oil OR cocoa butter OR salt OR tea bags OR potato OR shaving cream OR olive oil OR baking soda OR banana peel OR petroleum jelly OR whipped cream OR avocado OR bacon grease OR corn starch OR turmeric OR lemon juice OR curd OR pickle juice OR soy sauce OR urine OR talcum powder OR mashed strawberries OR exfoliating scrub OR mayonnaise OR peroxide OR bleach OR deep heat OR ketchup OR red grapes OR hairspray- not until the skin is fully healed!





alcohol might help with the pain but it is a serious risk as it will dehydrate you - so don't drink any. ibuprofen or aspirin will help but larger burns are often accompanied by stomach ulcers, so tylenol/panadol is best for pain if you are gonna tough it out. drink plenty of water or energy drinks that don't have caffeine (gatorade)





i would advise that you cover the burnt area with white soft paraffin (white petroleum) or aqueous cream bp. (check the links below and see if you can find a local equivalent). wash the burn and reapply every 4-6 hours - cover with cling wrap if you wish to cover with clothes - this will stop your clothes getting covered with paraffin and maintains the burn.





cling wrap alone is ok if you can't get hold of any paraffin. it also acts as a protective artificial skin - helping retain moisture and protect from further damage and pain. cling wrap is cheap and clean off the roll. in Australia ambulances often use this when someone has been burnt. - please note that cling wrap isn't always practical, like on your face.





the paraffin imitates the natural oils, creating a seal stopping water leaving the body and reduces pain by protecting sensitised nerves. both of these factors improve healing - good stuff stays in, bad stays out - that is one job of healthy skin. aloe is good coz it remoisturises but that moisture can be quickly lost as the skin can't contain fluids. so put aloe on, and then the paraffin on over the top. if there is broken skin leave out the aloe - just paraffin.





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finally if you are really worried go to a hospital that has a burns unit or plastic surgeons. serious sunburn i.e. blisters (and all other burns) should be seen by a burns trained doctor or nurse.Advice for a bad burn.....?
Tell him that if he doesn't go to a doctor and get proper medical attention for that burn, an infection can form deep in his leg under the skin and it could cause major problems for him in the long run. He really does need to seek medical attention for that bad of a burn.
I'm not a burn expert, but I like to think I know a little bit about the ways of men. The best thing that I have found to do is to call my own doctor (and usually end up talking to the nurse), and say something like ';my husband is a big weenie and won't willingly go to the doctor but .....describe situation.......should I bring him in by force or is this likely to resolve on its own?'; Most doctors will understand this situation and be able to help you determine whether you should go into battle or let it go..... Pharmacists are also very good resources - your man might wander into Walgreens with you and let the Pharmacist take a look to recommend something over the counter, at which time they will be able to tell him to his face whether he should seek more medical attention.
Keep the burn cool.. so submerse it in cool water periodically or keep a cool wet towel over it. Leave the blister until it pops on its own. Depending on the size of the burn, try using some aloe vera gel and then wrap it in saran wrap to keep it moist. You can also try the 2ndSkin bandages for burns.. they are a water gel bandage and they'll be fairly expensive but quite soothing. Once the blister pops, keep some polysporin on it or any other antiseptic cream you can find to keep infection away.


Sorry he's feeling so terrible. A little Tylenol for the pain should help as well.

In a bad situation, who is the first person that you would turn to for advice?

No one, really.In a bad situation, who is the first person that you would turn to for advice?
My husband.In a bad situation, who is the first person that you would turn to for advice?
my husband or my friends...maybe my mother.
My best friend.
my friend or my mom
One of my contacts, with whom I've grown very close.