Need desperate advice about feeling bad in a growing relationship?

ok so here is the back story. i (a guy) have know this girl for 3 years. we have been friends since we started college together and during this past semester before summer started we had talked about wanting to get togehter and so now, before school starts again, we have been official for almost 2 months now.





well we when we wanted to get together we have only been able to talk on AIM, the phone, and getting to see each other only once a week for a few hours. it was great for a while and we really got to know each other and grown to like each other more.





but now, to me, we dont have as much to talk about as we used to due to her working most of the time and im busy also and there isnt anything to talk about on either side, we only get to talk on the phone for a few hours a day and seeing each other for a few hours just doesnt seem enough bc it feels like we both come alive when we are together.





well tonight has been the worst ive felt so far. i feel like im not as interesting to her as i used to, though she says i am interesting and she loves me (not in love but loves me) and i just dont know what to think. its like im hitting a wall and getting discouraged. like im not happy.








so whats going on? is it because i want to see her more and want my relationship with her to grow but it cant because of not seeing or talking to her alot due to the circumstances? will it get better when i see her more at school? is there anything else i need to know so i can feel better about this? thanksNeed desperate advice about feeling bad in a growing relationship?
Do you really love her? Deep down in you heart? Do you really?





If you do, then try and make it work. Talk to her about it and see how she feels.





If not, then HEY! You're young! You've got plenty of time for relationships.





It probably will get better once you see her at school more, and you know everyone has their ups and downs. Sleep on it, and you might feel better in the morning.





Best wishes.Need desperate advice about feeling bad in a growing relationship?
It seems like the two of you are having trouble because you have already gone through the getting to know each other part of the relationship, and have already shared a lot of things about yourselves with each other, and are running out of interesting and knew things to talk about. What I would try is discussing the details of your day, or telling her about different ideas you've been thinking about. For good conversations, try talking about philosophy, politics, religion, current issues, anything the two of you might both be interested in. For a more personal conversation, tell her about something you saw or did that reminded you of her, or how you were thinking about her during the day. Be creative. If you put out the effort to have interesting conversations, she'll have more to put in too, because she can respond with her own ideas. Broaden the conversations from being just about trivial, every day matters.





Yes, it will be easier on both of you once you are able to see more of each other. Right now, the relationship seems to be in limbo because of the lack of face time, but it won't always be this way.





My advice would be to wait until you are able to spend more time together. If you still feel bad about the relationship, you can break it off, but chances are things will be better when you can see each other. It's hard right now, but just wait. You said the two of you come alive when you're together, and that's the important thing.





Good luck!