Need your advice/opinions ladies! bad spot complicated story!?

had a situation with this girl we became close friends very close but we ne, we got to be pretty close, lots of people assumed we were together...but i was very shy at the time and never made a move lookingback i def should have.....we got along great.after a while we had our misunderstandings were on and off friends for a while saw other people ,there was always some sexual tension between us...i was very inexperened when we first met , i have a tendency to get protective of her thats where some issues come from, some of her friends i dont really think are good for her, i drink i wont bite my toungue about it...i really cant stop myself sometimes, i would go off and i could see she would be hurt, i feel terrible about doing it...Welli ended up back home afnd we both were single but she wouldnt talk 2 me at the time.....i sent her flowers by deliv and told her i was sorry and that ive had feelings for her...she invited me to come to her birthday party when i saw her and seemed to be happy with me...at her party I got drunk some things i shouldnt have about her friends after another fight a week afterthat which i dont recall...i didnt try talking to her again for 2-3 months later by then she started seeing someone else.I know i said stupid things to her but it was just being protective not really intentionally hurtful your all probably thinkingim nalcholholibut really not,just a little alchohol bring s out my protectiveness of her,i drink proably twice a month now so thats not an issue,i really dont mean it i wish i wasnt like that....so she seeing someone elese i respect that, she saw me at a party after she started seeing him was giving me smiles and seemed like she was following me around but io didnt say much but hi, didnt really try contacting her except on her birthday, never emailed imed or anything......she blocked me on aim months and months after last time i tried talking to her and now she wont accept my facebook request and isnt denying it either just letting it sit there....all her friends also give me strange looks when i see them her close girl friends too not the creeps i was so protective about...your like i did something terrible, i saw her 2 nights ago at the bar, i tried avoiding her she seemed to be around a lot...we made eye contact once and she gave me a smile, she also was standing behind me it seemed every time i looked at the bar,,,why wouldnt she try to avoid me if she hates me enough to block me on aim?? i mean she keeps playing games this has been years and years...shes got a boyfriend shouldnt she be tired of this? if your gonna block me wouldnt you stay the hell away from me if were in the same bar? it seemed like i was the one angry at the bar, i wanted to talk but since she blocked me i though mabye i shoudlnt...what should i do?Need your advice/opinions ladies! bad spot complicated story!?
It's very important that you see this situation for what it really is; don't sugar coat it to make it palatable for you.





First, you say the alcohol brings out your ';protectiveness.'; Most people would call that kind of drunk behavior controlling or domineering. It's not healthy nor is it attractive. I think deep down you know this, because it drove a wedge between you and the girl you want.





Second, you imply that you're not an alcoholic, but you don't like what you become when you drink yet you still do it a few times a week. Furthermore, you say you wish you weren't like that. Sounds like you need to gain a little control in this area.





You've hurt her and led her to believe that you were sorry about the past and truly cared for her. She allowed herself to become vulnerable and let you back into her life, and you messed up...again.





Time to walk away from her. She's everywhere you are because she knows you want her and it makes her feel desirable when you're around. Women like to be admired. She's flattered by your attention and the control she knows she has over your heart now, but she doesn't want to set herself up to be hurt by you or ridiculed by her friends anymore.





You two just aren't good together, so it's best to accept that fact and bow out of this relationship gracefully. Stop begging to get with her or to keep her in your life. She's ';been there done that'; with you, and you didn't prove that you had changed; why in the world would she give it yet another shot? She's not going out on that limb again, and frankly, no one with any sense would.





I wish you the best. Please learn from this set of circumstances so you don't make this mistake again. Work on the issues that you have with yourself first, and everything else will fall into place. Good luck.Need your advice/opinions ladies! bad spot complicated story!?
You should tell her to stop giving you smiles and stop following you if she's seeing someone else.
It sounds like your feeling a little frustrated at all the games she's playing. I don't blame you.





Okay, the best time to talk with someone is not when you've had a couple of drinks. I'm not saying that you're an alcoholic, but it sounds like every time you have a drink---that's the time to confront her. I would wait until your both sober, and there's no one around, if you've decided to talk to her.





Honestly, I wouldn't talk to her. If she's got a boyfriend, and blocking you on aim--Does her boyfriend see her computer? What I'm thinking is, that she doesn't want any proof that she's communicating with you. But to give you a smile at the bar, her boyfriend wouldn't see any proof. You know what I mean? I think she's playing on both sides of the fence.





My advice, is to just stay away from her. If you see her in a bar -- ignore her. If she smiles, pretend you didn't see.





What doesn't make sense to me is that, one minute she's ignoring you, and the next minute, she's all smiling! Like I said, she's playing both sides of the fence. You sound like a nice guy who doesn't deserve that.
You should stop drinking alcohol, it's doing nothing good for you. It's bad for your body, it's bad for your relationships, it's bad for your available cash...I see no upside to the drinking.





How about you concentrate on one thing at a time. Fixing each of your bad habits at a time.
Sorry to say, I think you messed up because clearly she is very upset and quite hurt.


I would give it up and find someone else to start from scratch with.





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you need to write he a sincere letter. you need to send flowers again and tell her things really will change and you love her. you need to confront her but just say you are sorry and admit that she has the right to be mad at you. you should probobly look really hott so unbutton some buttons on your shirt when you do this :)





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