Need your advice/opinions ladies! bad spot complicated story!?

had a situation with this girl we became close friends very close but we ne, we got to be pretty close, lots of people assumed we were together...but i was very shy at the time and never made a move lookingback i def should have.....we got along great.after a while we had our misunderstandings were on and off friends for a while saw other people ,there was always some sexual tension between us...i was very inexperened when we first met , i have a tendency to get protective of her thats where some issues come from, some of her friends i dont really think are good for her, i drink i wont bite my toungue about it...i really cant stop myself sometimes, i would go off and i could see she would be hurt, i feel terrible about doing it...Welli ended up back home afnd we both were single but she wouldnt talk 2 me at the time.....i sent her flowers by deliv and told her i was sorry and that ive had feelings for her...she invited me to come to her birthday party when i saw her and seemed to be happy with me...at her party I got drunk some things i shouldnt have about her friends after another fight a week afterthat which i dont recall...i didnt try talking to her again for 2-3 months later by then she started seeing someone else.I know i said stupid things to her but it was just being protective not really intentionally hurtful your all probably thinkingim nalcholholibut really not,just a little alchohol bring s out my protectiveness of her,i drink proably twice a month now so thats not an issue,i really dont mean it i wish i wasnt like that....so she seeing someone elese i respect that, she saw me at a party after she started seeing him was giving me smiles and seemed like she was following me around but io didnt say much but hi, didnt really try contacting her except on her birthday, never emailed imed or anything......she blocked me on aim months and months after last time i tried talking to her and now she wont accept my facebook request and isnt denying it either just letting it sit there....all her friends also give me strange looks when i see them her close girl friends too not the creeps i was so protective about...your like i did something terrible, i saw her 2 nights ago at the bar, i tried avoiding her she seemed to be around a lot...we made eye contact once and she gave me a smile, she also was standing behind me it seemed every time i looked at the bar,,,why wouldnt she try to avoid me if she hates me enough to block me on aim?? i mean she keeps playing games this has been years and years...shes got a boyfriend shouldnt she be tired of this? if your gonna block me wouldnt you stay the hell away from me if were in the same bar? it seemed like i was the one angry at the bar, i wanted to talk but since she blocked me i though mabye i shoudlnt...what should i do?Need your advice/opinions ladies! bad spot complicated story!?
I hope this never happens to me


but u mite as well let her go


because yall relationship is over


sounds likeNeed your advice/opinions ladies! bad spot complicated story!?
Do you detect a hint of a connection between your use of alcohol and your problems with navigating a relationship? Maybe you should approach the situation completely sober and see if things work out differently. Good luck to you.
Dude, you need to get off your high horse and talk to her right away and straighten things out. She obviously misses you nad wants to talk again.
Sorry, I didn't get through reading it. It was soooooo long. Maybe next time, put some paragraphs in to break it up! Good luck with whatever your problem is.
I don't know, but your question was very amusing. =]
If she read this she's sleeping.


So am I now.
she effing blocked me...google it
she might feel that if she blocks you from aim, then she wont talk to you. In other words she is trying to keep her distance. When she sees you at bars, she knows that is the only time she will see you and talk to you, so she wont cross her line with other people around. MAybe she knows that you arn't good foreachother and would rather keep it that way. People get funny on AIM and facebook- they say things they dont mean and can form odd relationships on there. Usually people dont accept someone b/c they dont want that person to see their profile and what they are doing. Just ignore her. shes not worth putting your time into. shes playing with your head.
as a woman i would expect this if i was here: i would expect you to ask me why'd i block you and why am i playing games , tell her that you just wanted to apologize to her and you don't understand why she's doing those things , she's a woman men don't understand us and we don't understand you guy's , just tell her what you told us but be nice when you do it
your playing the game right along with her, frankly.. alcohol is disgusting don't drink, it slowly kills you, and if it brings out the worst in you? well doh stop doing it then, it seems like shes toying with you from her description. But i think you have the signals mixed up she probably just wants to be friends again make amends you know, it seems like she wants nothing more then that and you have to accept that if it's the truth. also, protectiveness well it's good sometimes but you've got to get a grip on it, she appears to be able to handle her problems on her own, she doesn't need your help the better off you'll both be. I think you should move on, if shes found someone else maybe you should to, you seem to still like like her, is that why it's so hard for you to let go and forget. and about the smiling thing and seeing her around a lot, it's not illegal to be in the same place with someone that your not getting along with right now, she COULD act like a complete ***** and not even smile. But again i think it's time to move on let go find someone else, find someone who you get along with better don't always ponder on the what ifs in life trust me that gets you NO WHERE.
First of all.. I dont think the drinking had anything to do with your problem. You said you were shy, so when you would drink you would just say what you were thinking. Thats bad, because you hold in so much anger that when you did drink you would say things you didnt mean.





When she seen you do this over and over she probably assumed that you would always be like that and thats kind of scary.





If you still like her more than a friend, I suggest emailing a letter to her facebook account telling her how you feel and that the past is the past. You have to make her believe that you arnt that way anymore. Dont be shy... say what you want to day, but do it when you are sober. You have nothing to lose.