Thursday, May 13, 2010

I am the bad tenant - need legal advice - added mental health issue?

I have lived in a duplex for six years. For the first four years, everything was fine. I have been in treatment for severe depression/anxiety disorder since 2000. For the past two years, it has been getting worse and I am afraid that my house bore the brunt. I was completely unable to clean my house or take out trash for almost two years.





Here is the current situation. I have stepped up my treatment, I have admitted to my therapist the situation, something I had been unable to do before. I was not evicted from my house and the rent is up to date but I am now living in a new house.





The problem is, I cannot get everything out of the old house. It is trashed. There is no structural damage aside from a hole in one bedroom wall (drywall) which was a complete accident and will be simple to fix. There is trash everywhere. I have tried almost daily to get over there and clean it out. I have no local support system, no close family and even my church was unable to help, which really upset me. Because of my mental health issues, I cannot even walk in the front door of the old house without dissolving into tears.





I have written a letter to my landlord which I will deliver along with the key this Saturday. I am taking full responsibility for the cleaning and repairs and am offering to set up a payment plan to repay them for any costs beyond the security deposit.





I have my new landlord as well as a counselor coming over to make regular home visits to the new house to make sure this doesn't happen again. I am doing everything I can think of to make amends.





I am scared that my old landlord will get really nasty over this, and while I wouldn't blame him if he did, I am hoping he will take my situation into consideration and let me make this right.





I would love to hear from tenants and landlords alike on this subject as well as any advice from mental health professionals.





What are my rights? What are my responsibilities?I am the bad tenant - need legal advice - added mental health issue?
Can you afford to pay one more months rent and just make a deal with yourself that you will fill one garbage bag a day?





If you are able, I think the sense of accomplishment will go far in repairing your self esteem. But it is ok if you still cannot.





It will cost the landlord a few hundred probably to clean it out. Make your payment plan, but be prepared for the possibility that he may sue you. Then you will have a judgment against you if you ever go to buy a house or a new car. Sounds like that isn't in your foreseeable future though, so let it go.





The trick here is to do everything right this time, and not beat yourself up over what you did wrong. Look forward, not back.





Good luck. Sounds like you are on the mend.I am the bad tenant - need legal advice - added mental health issue?
This is really not as difficult as you make it sound. All you have to do is hire a maid to go over there, clean up the place, and bring anything valuable over to your new apartment.
You can hire a cleaning service to come in and clean it for you.
So, you can post online but can't clean your house. Truly, you make me sick.

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