You should be honest with her sweetie - you seem much older than 18, and hopefully she will understand why you lied.
It is much better to come clean sooner rather than later, as if it does end because of it, you will be less hurt.
And no need to self concious, you are a lovely bloke, and I'm sure lots of girls are beating down your door!
We've got to try and stay positive about these things, who knows - maybe it'll work this time round! If not, there are always other women (me lol) :)I feel really bad, need some damn good advice PLEASE?
I agree, you sound charming. Tell her the truth and she will see the good person that you are. Good luck and next time, just be honest.
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You need to tell her the truth immediately! The longer you wait, the worse she'll take it when she finds out your real age. Plus, if you like her and want to be with her that much, and want the relationship to have any hope of succeeding, the worst thing you can do is build that relationship on a lie.
If she leaves you because you lied to her, you'll just have to deal with it because you shouldn't have done that in the first place. At the same time though, she may not take it that hard and be willing to overlook it.
Uh... First off. BE HONEST. You cant build a relatioship on lies. It doesnt work.
tell her soon the truth
your self conscious wreck seems to have returned anyway looking at your question :) 1) Age is no barrier if you like each other 2) don't tell her yet... she possibly wasn't totally honest with her details 3) be cool and calm down 4) arrange another date
5) need or want... it's different 6) don't go overboard or you will **** it up
for starters..try being honest...I know it is a concept that is foriegn to most men, but if you really feel like you ';need'; this girl then you better fix things now....no matter what the cost.....if you start your realationship on a lie....it won't last.
You need to tell her straight away your real age. It doesnt really matter how you tell her - it may be easier to do it on the net as thats the way you communicate the most. I dont think it will make her go off you as you were only 2 years out, not 10! I think you'll be fine as you probably dont know a great deal about eachother yet so she's not going to be gutted. The longer you leave it the more she'll wonder what else you've lied about when she does find out!
Do it tonight - it'll be fine cos it's the right thing to do! Good luck!
You have a chance if you can get enough courage to tell her the truth. If she can accept you for that, then you've gotten off to a good start, and can continue from there without too much unecessary stress.
Tell her the truth now!!! Or it will be too late!
Tell her NOW that you're 18 and it will make things so much easier. She might still like you for who you are, if not then it is better that things are out in the open now than when you have become even closer and she will feel even more hurt that you lied to her.
relax and stop thinking that things will go bad. she met you right? so she must think you're OK. just act how you did on the net, she liked you there.
first of all you don't need a woman to be confident. When your happy with yourself it shows on the outside and thats very attactive whether your male or female.
secondly if you continue your lie the longer it goes on the more it will eat at you, and the bigger the issue will be when it all comes out!
if she likes you, age wont matter and if it does matter it was not ment to be.
you have to learn to love yourself before others can love you.
hope it all goes well !
good luck XxX
Be open and honest with her. If she really likes you she won't mind. If she doesn't like you then what does it matter?
The sooner you admit the lie, the better. If youlet it go on, she will look at it like you basically lied to her every day. Be aware, she may be instantly turned off- honastly.. I would be. If she likes you that much, maybe she'll overlook it- just tell her asap. I hate to be deceived, and sure she would appreciate you going on with the fib.
I know this must be hard for you, but you have to tell her the truth. If you wait too long to do so, she'll be so much more likely to reject you because she'll think that the entire relationship has been a lie. Hopefully, she'll understand and stilll be interested in you, but if she doesn't then move on and keep looking for someone who will love the REAL you. There's somebody out there, just have faith - and no more lies.
be honest with her and hope for the best!
the best advice, truthfuly is lying
if its love then disclose or enclose !!!
FIrst things first: don't expect her to save you from selfconsciousness or anything else for that matter. Glad you like the internet girl, however, as you are proof positive, not everyone tells the truth on the net. Take it slow and don't put all your eggs in one basket. Try meeting someone for real, please. Oh, and for once, be honest on the net and in person. It's easy to make up a persona, but for a real relationship, you need the truth. Good luck to you.
be honest after the next time u c her. if she likes u it wont matter. 18 isnt too young
just be nice and understanding and be calm. if u dont stay calm u will F it up!
You don't need her, you just want her. You can't put that on a person, you need to not be a self-conscious reck by yourself its not her job to do that for you.
Tell her the truth as soon as possible, she will probably mind that you lied more than she will mind your age. A four year gap is not that big.
Do things that boost your confidence, and you will kill two birds with one stone. You will be more attractive to women, and you will feel less self conscious. It is you that has to do this, not her.
the fact you say you need someone seems rather concerning - i wld suggest you look at why you need her so much and i woul also deal with this first.
Well think it through, she'll be mad when she finds out you lied to her, but she'll be madder if she finds out from someone else. So tell her the truth, it's only a two year difference and that shouldn't matter. Good luck, you shouldn't need it though : )
be straightforward and truthful this time,if she is genuine she will understand
Unfortunately you may have already ';f';d things up by lying in the first place. A guy did that to me and when he told me the truth I dusted him on the spot.
Sorry.
you've got to tell her now. Imagine things do go further and she wants to take you somewhere that's over 21s only?!
Its not your choice to keep this lie. you were deceptive from the start. If you lose her its your own fault. Lies get you nowhere! If you really do get on she'll probably appreciate you being man enough to hold your hands up.
Expect a little anger from her though and give her space if she needs it. If its meant to be, she'll be back! Its you, not your age that got you the lady xxxx Good luck!
Well, from a 23 year old woman's stand point, the best thing for you to do RIGHT NOW, is be honest with her about your age.. If she's comfortable with you being two years younger than she is, it's probable that she'll be just as comfortable with the extra two. If you don not tell her now and proceed with seeing her, when the truth comes out (And it will), she will feel a little betrayed, as by not telling her the whole time, you were lying to her the whole time. It's not favorable to build a relationship on a lie, even if it is a small one... If she likes you the way you like her, the extra two years won't matter.. Even if it doesn't work out.. You need to stop being so self concious.. If you don't believe in yourself, it's gonna be just as hard for someone else to.. GOOD LUCK
you already started off on the wrong foot by lying. i would rectify that by telling the truth asap and don't lie anymore. trust is very important if you want this to work out.
keep to your stuck age and only tell her once you are married
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